If you quit your job like I did, would you expect someone from management to check in with you?

Well, I’m in such shock and can’t believe what happened. I’ve been at what was my current job for 4 months in career services at a college. You all have seen my posts, today is the straw that broke the camels back. I really felt like I was trying my best and my boss was pretty positive towards the quality of my work, I have felt micromanaged at times tho (lot of pressure due to meeting placement rate). She said I was one of the stronger people in the office but she’s been up my ass so what is it?

Today during a call she told me to do something and I clapped back saying I DID in fact do it, she’s ready to give orders and assume I didn’t do it. She replies to an email saying that we should do something different instead, all of these new things that are coming out of the woodworks. I was actually about to leave the building and not come back right b4 we had a big meeting to discuss graduation tomorrow.

I talked to my dad and he said just say you were at the bathroom. I was 10 min late, a coworker came looking for me with an attitude and my boss was yelling at me in front of the other people in the meeting saying that she wants to talk to me after. They proceeded like nothing happened, someone asks me a question and I turn to my boss saying “this is the way I’m being treated for the ONE time that I’m actually late to something”. And she said that was beyond the point, to not talk about it now. I said I’m not dealing with this, dropped my notes on the table and walked out. Left my desk keys on my desk and drove off.

Mind you, this was at 5 PM. I haven’t gotten any calls or emails. I am really shocked that I got such behavior, when I have not seen this side of leadership. The ONE time I’m late?

Would you all have done the same? I’m not asking for someone to beg for me back but at least reach out and follow up/apologize for my boss’s bad behavior.

These are the threads you have started that I could fit on one screen grab.

I think they are as happy for you to move on as you seem to be happy to be moving on. No one is going to call and try and retain someone that storms off.

You have what are colloquially called irreconcilable differences.

Wishing you greater success and happiness at your next job.

FYI I wouldn’t use this employer as a future reference and you are likely not going to be eligible for unemployment if in fact you resigned.

Lastly you should never quit a job on the last day of the month. Benefits typically renew monthly. Translation being when you walked out you terminated effectively immediately and in theory your employer sponsored health benefits could expire 9/1.

You may want to call them and apologize and exit more gracefully and professionally.

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If I quit a job in the middle of a meeting, I would not expect anyone from management to reach out to me. They’ve already written you off.

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I would not have done the same. I would also not expect to get a call from management and especially not an apology.

This was obviously not the job for you.

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Time to look for a different job!!! In all my years of working, I’ve had one boss that I was really incompatible with and after four years decided that it was not a very healthy situation and moved on. I have never looked back on that decision and have never had any (major) problems with bosses or coworkers since. I had another job lined up, however, and left under peaceful circumstances. Good luck on your new job search and I hope you find a job that fits your personality and career goals.

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You’ve started a number of threads here that tend towards the dramatic. Drama is not your friend here.

No, nobody is going to call you back saying “Please, please come back! We recognize the error of our ways! We’ll be good in the future, we promise!” See the above point.

You got a lot of advice in the previous threads. It seems you haven’t taken it. I am beginning to conclude that you do not want advice, but rather validation.

You seem to have an uncanny knack for assessing other people’s thoughts and motivations. Did you know if you can demonstrate this ability in a controlled environment you can win prizes? I think there are million dollar challenges out there.

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Please consider speaking with a counselor if you haven’t already.

Most jobs can be really stressful at times (often all the time) and there will always be the potential for not getting along with bosses or coworkers. It’s not just important to find the best job fit, it’s also important to gain the skills you need to navigate the interpersonal stuff.

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I expect someone from HR may contact you in a few days to complete exit paperwork. People from your department may be advised not to contact you.

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Am I the only one wondering if the OP will attempt a George Costanza?

In all seriousness, no, you should not expect a call. In fact, your boss is likely happy to not have to go through the hassle of terminating you.

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That’s what makes this so difficult!!

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They are happy that you are gone. Not sure if HR will contact you.

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If someone contacts you it would likely be only to tie up administrative loose ends (ex. returning your ID and any equipment such as a laptop etc. you may have). I imagine they are happy you quit.

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Hm, you did not arrive in time for a “pretty big meeting”, but instead chose to speak to your Dad.

They had to track you down with everyone waiting for you, so the meeting could start. Mind you, it’s 5 PM and other people DO have lives.

You won’t like my cut-throat reaction, coming from the perspective of someone doing the hiring and firing, and signing the paychecks…

Until YOU are the boss, you better show humility when facing everyone’s annoyed reaction to this specific situation you created. (It doesn’t matter if you have other grievances — retaliation is not an acceptable approach.)

Instead of addressing your concern with your boss one-on-one, you then chose to hijack the already-delayed “big” meeting, and make it about you? Presumably, your personal issue is supposed to be bigger to everyone in that meeting?

In a professional/corporate setting, I would have had you escorted off the premises at this point!

When I’m trying to move projects forward, I certainly will set time aside for individuals, but I will not tolerate people using theatrics to dictate how I execute whatever I’ve been put in charge of.

You baked your cake — time to eat it!

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Agreed. Based on all of the OP’s posts, she could really benefit from some professionalism workshops.

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I believe OP has responded to the constructive criticisms and responses (that she solicited) in this CC thread in a similar manner to the way she/he handled her/his conflict at work absent the leaving of the notes and keys on the desk.

It would appear she quit CC!!

Good luck and get the support you would clearly benefit from.

I think you need to reread some of these posts. Then, make an appointment with mental health professional like social worker, psychologist etc. Take these posts and let them read them and help you. You will thank me later. If not you will keep repeating these issues. It’s OK to admit you need help. Good Luck.

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Maybe OP should go visit Alison Green on AskAManager and see what she and commentariat have to say… :fire: :fire: :fire:

The OP needs to be the one to check in.

Do you have a laptop or any other property that belongs to your employer? That needs to go back. Do you have personal items- raincoat, extra shoes- that you’d like returned? Is there an exit packet (most employers have them) where you need to check off and sign various forms- i.e. how to handle confidential information now that you are an ex-employee, how to apply for COBRA to maintain your health insurance, etc.

If you want anything beyond " employee resigned in a very unprofessional manner" when someone calls for a reference down the road you need to get it together and reach out, handle your exit like a grownup. But if you have anything that doesn’t belong to you make sure you get that back to them ASAP.

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Workers tend to be busy, be they managers or managees. Sometimes they just don’t have time to call.

in larger firms, typically HR takes care of the release process. In smaller firms, well, there may not be a department to handle that, and everyone else is busy operating.

Unless you own the company, someone is your boss. And even if you own the company, well, clients/customers are your bosses. So basically, everyone working in the US and other relatively free-market-based countries has at least one boss. This is a fact you will need to get used to, if not embrace.

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OP: Is this your first full-time job ?

Now that you have some extra time,consider reviewing the training videos posted above.

Based on your posts, my impression is that your manager or supervisor tried to help you do well at your job.

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