<p>and equally in love with someone of the same sex and someone of the opposite sex, which one would you rather spend the rest of your life with? Is this scenario even possible? Reasons for either decision?</p>
<p>I don’t see why this is only a problem for bisexuals. Heterosexuals have this problem too–being in love with 2 people at once–and the reaction/solution is pretty much the same for both types of people. You pick one. For a bisexual, the gender thing doesn’t really matter, since you love one of each gender and you don’t have a preference for gender. Heterosexuals would just be in love with 2 different men, or 2 different women. The reason for your choice is going to be totally personal and you can’t generalize. Perhaps the bisexual would choose the person of the opposite sex because society would approve (and they would get marriage benefits, children, etc.) But who knows?</p>
<p>I think mallomar explains it perfectly. What does sexual orientation have anything to do with it, if the person loves them both?</p>
<p>With the latter option, you get to be married, have children of you own, maybe even continue the legacy of your family last name, satisfy your parents (in this world, many would prefer a heterosexual arrangement), live with fewer hassles</p>
<p>What do you mean sexual orientation doesn’t matter? It matters, and it’s a big deal.</p>
<p>tisthetruth, if you read my post, I mentioned marriage and children, along with societal approval. but as i stated in my post, you never know. if you’ve already come out as bisexual, then you wouldn’t make a sexual choice just to satisfy your parents or society anymore.
if you’re gay and you really love someone, you can always have children through other means (adoption, artificial insemination, etc.)
you can always legally change your name or your partner can do it. and nowadays many heterosexual women do not change their names when they marry. it’s a personal choice.</p>
<p>the main thing is, once you’ve come out as gay, you don’t have to make choices just because society approves or disapproves. the whole point of coming out is that you’re saying to people, this is who i am, i’m making my own decisions now.</p>
<p>so really, sexual orientation plays a marginal role in this decision. it’s all about personal factors.</p>
<p>Yea, of course, it’s a personal decision. That’s why I’m asking which option you, personally, would go with.</p>
<p>If I were bi? No idea. The only outside factor (besides my personal feelings for the 2 loves) I can see is my parents’ opinion. I can’t predict how my parents would react but I presume they would be supportive either way. I have a sibling and chances are the sibling would not be gay in any way, so they wouldn’t put pressure on me to produce grandchildren since my sibling could do it for them…probably they might worry that society would look down on me but they wouldn’t force me to submit to society’s norms. They would just want me to be happy so I’d go ahead and pick whichever one I liked better (regardless of sex since that wouldn’t matter).</p>
<p>If I were bisexual?
I’d go for a heterosexual relationship.</p>
<p>If I were bi and equally loved the two people, I’d go with whichever person I can see being able to keep up with my hectic schedule.</p>