I have like one month left of my first semester. I haven’t made any friends yet. I act friendly, smile a lot, and help people when they’ve missed a class but no one has asked me to hang out or eat something yet. I think it would be awkward to just go up to someone I’ve never met before and just ask them to hang out sometime, so i don’t know what to do. Is something wrong with me? Am I unapproachable? I don’t live in a dorm because i have pets and i can’t afford to live in dorms. I live at home and have a great family, mom, dad, and my brothers. but when i come to college and i have time in between classes i just sit there and watch couples, and friends hang out and have fun. I’m really lonely and sometimes it’s more than i can bare. I just moved to this area so i don’t have any friends outside of college either. I don’t know what to do and i’m afraid i’m becoming depressed.
Why don’t you consider joining a club or activity? You sound like a wonderful person and sometimes finding a common interest will help start a friendship.
A lot of the social connections that happen at college stem from being together in the dorms, in the dining hall, etc. Also when you start in the spring instead of the fall, you’re not part of a giant group of “we’re all new here, in the same boat” students. Living at home means missing out on some of those organic opportunities to simply hang out with people. The suggestion to join a club or activity is a great one. You can also ask classmates if they want to get together to study… you can spend some time in the student union or a part of the library where talking is allowed… you can ask to join a table of folks for a meal.
There’s nothing wrong with you. Don’t get discouraged! You may need to work a little harder at this than the average student living on-campus, but your people are out there. You’ll find them. 