I'm failing community college (pretty much).

<p>I’m just going to get this off my chest and check back tomorrow. I took a year off from doing much of anything because I had no other choice. After 21 years of military service, my dad decided to move to California for a new job because he was retiring. I was pretty sick of moving around my entire life and I had gone through a rough life in high school going without friends for first three years of it. However, I wasn’t a bad student. I got mostly A’s because I could just care <em>that</em> much and sunk into other pursuits. I took a business class my senior year and every day we’d have to research an article and write up a report on things. Yeah, well, 2008 wasn’t such a good year for the economy and my parents knocked on my door to tell me that they couldn’t afford college. But I couldn’t take no for an answer and hounded on my dad to find a way and we did: community college. Only a year later did I have enough money to start my education and it’s weird because I still have no social life since I was 13 outside of my long-distance girlfriend I’ve been with since I was 18 (it’s not just online). </p>

<p>But the summer of 2009 something really clicked with me. I never had a prior interest in mathematics at any point during high school, but I had read a book by Richard Feynman and was delighted at the read. It inspired me so much that I became deeply interested in solving problems. I didn’t have much going on for me class-wise because I was at the bottom of the barrel as a newcomer, crashing classes like crazy. I finally got into 3 math classes: Statistics, Pre-Calculus, and Trigonometry and was so excited to be doing so well with A’s in all my classes come the end of the semester. I had never received above a B in high school in a math class. I had taken 12 units, though, so I submitted an application to join the Honors Program here. I got it. I also joined the Honors Society. And then, I got sick. It started in the spring and what seemed like a great undertaking soon turned into a nightmare. I was working overtime just to pass my classes. I put in an unreasonable amount of 10-15 hours a day when I had the time to study chemistry because I got a 21% on my first exam, due to having a fever that day. I had never felt so crushed. The rest of my classes I gave what I could. I didn’t make very good grades. B,C,C,B. Two C’s in 5 unit classes. </p>

<p>And the summer of 2010, I had signed up for Calculus 2 during the summer. My health had been rather poorly still and I soon learned that I had pneumonia (the first appointment I had dismissed me with just inhaler. the second appointment was a whole other ballgame) but even the details on that were sketchy. But I took the class and passed it with a C. And my memory has been deteriorating ever since on things in class.</p>

<p>I’m taking classes now. I’ve been in the hospital about 10-15 times for things and have another appointment next Friday. They tell me I have this, that I have that, and that they don’t know what. I dropped Linear Algebra. I’ve got a 62.5, second lowest grade in my Diffy Q class, and I love mathematics. And I’m getting very sick. Everyone comments on my health. What do I do? What can I do? I’m sporting a 2.75 GPA and I feel like it’s only getting worse. I don’t want to drop my major, but my girlfriend is also another stressor in my life. I was supposed to go to her LAC and she always cries (literally) now because I’m not getting any better, that I’m not remembering as well as I used to, and I’m failing at something I love and cherish. And I have to get a recommendation form and hand it to the dean, who is going to see how I’ve done and I don’t have many things to offer. And all this time I don’t want to give up. I had this goal of getting into UCLA, UC Berkeley, or her college and I literally broke down this past weekend realizing I’d never get into any of those anymore. The medicine hasn’t helped. I haven’t shown how scared I am to my girlfriend, but I’m so scared for my life. I feel like it’s been ruined and that there’s nothing I can do anymore about it.</p>

<p>Pick up the phone.</p>

<p>Call the counseling office at your community college.</p>

<p>Tell them that you need to arrange for a Medical Leave of Absence.</p>

<p>Then do what you need to do to make that happen.</p>

<p>Then, take care of your health first. That is all that matters right now. College can wait.</p>

<p>As for your girlfriend, she is scared for you. That is why she’s crying all the time. If she is the right girl for you, she will turn out to be a pillar of strength during your illness. If she’s not capable of turning out to be a pillar of strength, she isn’t really the right girl for you just now.</p>

<p>Wishing you all the best.</p>

<p>Stressing out won’t help you right now. Drop everything. Focus on getting better so you can achieve you goals later. Think of it as taking some time off. Don’t fret over the results that you’re getting when you’re not in the condition to perform to the best of your ability.</p>

<p>I agree with the advice of taking some time off and getting the health issues tended to. Are you close to an area with a higher level of care? If so, use it. I am a nurse and am frequently amazed by people who have access to better care (such as in a universtiy setting) but don’t take advantage of it for various reasons such as parking.<br>
My son was a very average student in HS and has done very well in college, starting at our local CC. He needed the time to mature and now he is a very good student who will graduate this spring and hopes to get accepted for a masters program in speech therapy. The transfer fromm CC to a 4 year program should not be a problem but your health issues are currently holding you back. In and out of the hospital 10-15 times at your age means something more needs to be done.</p>

<p>It will look much more responsible to take time off of school, get healthy, and then reenroll and continue getting good grades. It shows you’re a responsible adult that know how to handle real life responsibilities. Staying and getting bad grades will just make you worse off and might even rule out all your chances of getting into those schools.</p>

<p>Dont break down or else everything will go downhill. Okay?</p>

<p>Sit back, relax, and take some time off. Get better, and get back into it stronger than ever.</p>