I'm transferring and I have no friends whatsoever!

<p>I don't know what it is, but I feel like no one likes me. It's like, when I'm nice and friendly and try starting conversations with people or smiling, or texting someone, I feel that they think I'm weird or creepy. But at the same time, no one likes a mean person, so that's why I'm nice.
I'm not confident at all and have a low self esteem. </p>

<p>I'm transferring from CC to a university almost 2 hours away and I leave next week.
But I'm terrified because I'm scared that I won't make friends because people look at me like I'm nuts when I try talking to them, and act like their not interested in me when I try texting. I'm a pretty girl with a nice body. I'm a brunette with green eyes and I'm almost 5 feet and I'm 90 pounds. So I have the looks, just not the personality. </p>

<p>So why doesn't anyone like me and how can I make friends going into college? </p>

<p>Also, do you think it's possible to survive college with no friends?</p>

<p>I only have 2 friends. That's it. And their not going to my college.</p>

<p>I have three suggestions.</p>

<p>One is to find a few books about making friends - the advice you get on College Confidential might give you a start, but it won't be enough to sustain you.</p>

<p>My second suggestion is to make sure you join several VERY active clubs on the new campus. (If you join 3 or 4, you can drop one or two if they turn out to be duds). Make it clubs where you WORK on common goals... an environmental club where you clean out rivers, a choir where you practice and perform often, the school newspaper, the school salsa club, whathaveyou. The reality is that after about 7th grade and DEFINITELY after HS in general, people don't make friends just because it is fun to have friends. People are just too gosh darn busy to hang out and have coffee for hours every day and chat like you see on TV shows. Sex in the City or Friends are FANTASY projections of how adult friendships work. In reality, most friendships in adulthood are built over common bonds of work and serious play - a biking/exercise partner, moms with toddlers at a play group, neighborhood watch/clean-up crews, an investment club for women, etc.</p>

<p>My third suggestion is to get some personal counseling. You sound like you have a lot of social anxiety and that professional support could be extremely useful. </p>

<p>Best of luck.</p>

<p>Books can't teach you social skills. Honestly, you say you're nice because nobody likes a mean person. Stop trying to "be" something because of others perception. Be who you are. Don't be overly nice and stop keep trying to start conversations, I knew a girl like that and I thought of her as creepy and annoying as well. </p>

<p>You say you "have the looks." That kind of remark comes off a bit shallow. Maybe people sense that? </p>

<p>Anyways, this is really not the place to be ask for friendship help. But whatever; just be yourself. Don't try to act like someone people would like. That never works. Never invite yourself and randomly join other people's conversation. That's considered rude. </p>

<p>Be casual and not hysterical about anything. Chances are, people will begin talking to you. Like the person above said, don't stay indoors. Join a few clubs and activities, maybe even a sorority. </p>

<p>Oh yeah, you say you have low self esteem. That's bs. Be confident about who you are. People like confidence, but then again, not too much. </p>

<p>Good luck and hope this helps.</p>

<p>Sounds like this is a serious problem..I have posted my comment on one of your threads, not sure which one. I thought u were a guy, whatever. Try to seek counseling at your CC. If that's not an option, find out whether your school have a health center. They should be able to help you on any type of social/mental issues when u get a hold on psychologist. Seems like thats the way to go. </p>

<p>Please do not act something that your not because for some reason we can tell. I mean young people like us can sense weirdness whatever it is. (e.g. sudden change of tone, voice, speaking, body language, movement...) </p>

<p>Seriously, just be yourself. And find out if your new school have psychologist.</p>