<p>I’m writing here because I need the advice of a wise and loving parent (and my parents are not really that sort). </p>
<p>I often get myself into situations where I get scared of doing something I really want to do, come up with really creative reasons why it’s a bad idea, and convince myself… and then don’t do it and regret it.</p>
<p>The latest case in point is not inviting my boyfriend to go with me to my cousin’s wedding. I feel terrible and I miss him so much. I invited him and uninvited him and invited him and freaked-out and… oh it was so dumb and drama-filled.</p>
<p>Ugh. What can I do to make it up to him? I feel so stupid.</p>
<p>Well the next time you invite and uninvite someone just ask yourself how you would feel if someone did that to you. It might help guide you in the action to take.</p>
<p>Sounds like you need to give yourself a break. You need to trust yourself to make good decisions the first time. Don’t second guess yourself. Think about the situation, make the best decision you can with the available information, and then let it be. </p>
<p>As for your boyfriend, just tell him you are sorry. Don’t over-explain. Just tell him you were unfair to him, and you are sorry. Tell him you will do all you can to keep from doing that in the future. How close are the two of you? If you are pretty close, you might confide in him about your second guessing. It may help him understand, and he might even have some words of wisdom for you.</p>
<p>In the long run, please consider trying to build up your self esteem. Doing things that make you feel good about yourself will help. Try exercise, particularly yoga. You might visit the counseling center at school & ask to talk to someone (LOTS of teens are in your shoes … it’s normal). Maybe karate or a self defense class would be good. Make sure you surround yourself with people who are positive forces in your life. Best wishes!</p>