<p>I’m exactly like you, except I’m going to be 22 in two months. Drinking and partying isn’t my thing at all (whenever I get invited to the party, I always hang out at the refreshment table and just watch). Also, you don’t have to party to find a significant other. One of my roommates found her significant other in her geology class–they both realized they were from the same residence hall, but different floors.</p>
<p>Also consider why finding a boyfriend is so important to you. Just live your life, find happiness within yourself, and then the right person will find you.</p>
<p>Don’t worry about it Naoki, I’m the same way. You just have to actually hunt out the people that don’t party too much or the people that do but you are still able to have a conversation with. </p>
<p>I’m not necessarily against underage drinking, but I definitely don’t dress like a slut because I have more respect for myself than that. I have male friends but I’ve never had a boyfriend either. I guess I’m just waiting for that “right guy.” LOL. I have male classmates that I talk to and hang out with, so I don’t think its weird to ask. Don’t worry too much. You’ll find true friends and maybe even a great guy if you just keep being yourself. Us good girls have to stick together. ;)</p>
<p>I second what SillyStokey92 said. 
Stick to your morals.</p>
<p>Thanks guys, your support is so nice :)</p>
<p>And to clarify no, I’m not religious and kinda too busy to join groups. ^^" (at least this year)
And I don’t mean necessarily mean wait until marriage to have sex, but I mean wait until you’re SURE it’s unlikely of breaking up/living together, and you plan to marry soon.</p>
<p>I do think I might be too focused on finding a boyfriend, I’m hopelessly romantic. I don’t want to die single or only get a boyfriend when I’m much older…</p>
<p>Hehe and yes there is a lot of guys around me since I’m in an engineering field. I just have a hard time of telling who are the pure ones interested in long term relationship.</p>
<p>I am also kind of worried my friendliness/forwardness might be misinterpreted like you say…but I feel like if I toned it down, I would just drift apart from them like a regular classmate. Usually I get the crush on guys I see as attractive from afar,and then try to get to know them. So I don’t know exactly how to make myself stand as different from another classmate and make them want to keep being my friend after I introduce myself and after we become friends within that class.</p>
<p>Basically I’ve gotten pretty good at introducing myself to people in college and forming that kind of relationship where you will always try to sit together and leave classes together talking. (“class friends”)</p>
<p>As a girl, I dont know how to take it farther? By “the right guy comes along”, does that mean he will take the next step, or does it mean that I need to continue proactively playing a role in this? (ie being super nice in class, suggesting we go get lunch after class, etc)</p>
<p>get religion</p>
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<p>Honestly, very few college guys are looking for a long term relationship. Just because you don’t meet someone as an undergraduate doesn’t mean you will “die single”. For now, wait and see if someone right comes along. If not, more guys should be serious about dating after you’ve graduated.</p>
<p>the OP reminds me of me except that I’m a guy who has recently graduated from electrical engineering. I was looking for a long term relationship but didn’t have much sucess, feel free to search my previous threads. </p>
<p>Since you are a girl in computer engineering you are at a huge advantage. Do you have many friends that you hang out with after class as opposed to ‘class friends’? Why don’t you try to form study groups with the guys in your class, theres a lot of teamwork in engineering. </p>
<p>Nevertheless, at least you’re gaining exposure to the opposite gender. As a male engineering student, i didn’t really talk to a girl in a non study manner until after graduation…</p>
<p>i forgot to mention that another similarity between me and the OP is that I didn’t drink / party either. I didn’t join any clubs cause i was too busy so my social circle was just me a few classmates which was my pretty content with.</p>
<p>another question, do you put much effort into the way you look?</p>
<p>telling someone to just drop it to conform? how sweet of you. (eh. this is supposed to be directed to a previous commenter)</p>
<p>I would be very interested to know the answer to the “right guy” asking you out or vice versa question. Me? I say continue being proactive so that you get what YOU want.</p>
<p>never change your morals. you will find the right person when the time is right.</p>
<p>As lots of people have pointed out, it’s not at all strange that you don’t party. At 18, I can’t say I do a lot although it is occasionally fun. And partying isn’t really a good place to meet friends, let alone boyfriends. There’s not really anything you can “do” to get a boyfriend, aside from being friendly and pro-active, as you are now. The very first thing a relationship starts with is attraction, and aside from minor changes in appearance, there’s not THAT much that can be done about how attractive someone else finds you.
I do sympathise, by the way, as a tiny bit of a romantic as well as a bit of a realist (two brothers and divorced parents. Not a good start). While I wouldn’t go so far as to say that I’d have to wait until moving in/marriage to have sex with someone, there’d definitely have to be an element of trust before it happens as I doubt I’d derive any real contentment from random flings. I think you just need to keep an open mind and accept that it’ll happen at some point, and not get too desperate.</p>
<p>Don’t worry about it too much - just wait for the right moment. They always say that if you rush too much and try to get into a relationship with the first person you find (not saying you’re doing that, just pointing it out), it will be a disaster. I’m 18 (guy) and I also don’t party or drink at all. It also frustrates me at times because I’m against drinking and all that and even if I go to parties down the line, it will only be if my friends invite me and/or really want me to come. I’m pretty sure I’ll hit up a party at some point, though, because I go to a school where the Greek life and party scene are extremely prominent, and I want to see what that’s like.</p>
<p>I’ve never been in a relationship and honestly, there are so many attractive girls on my campus and I’m a really ordinary-looking guy LOL. But don’t worry too much about it. Relationships are pretty rare among freshman, and the reason why I don’t even think much about relationships is because very few people around me (friends, roommates, floormates, etc.) are in a relationship.</p>
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<p>This is so true. If you’re just looking for someone, you don’t realize yet how easy it is to be a girl in engineering.</p>
<p>It’s not strange that you don’t party; from my experience most people don’t. I wouldn’t recommend setting up social connections in public or on facebook; I think the internet is great for knowledge but for social interactions, it may be unreliable. It may be better for you to go to parties; just because you meet someone quick doesn’t mean it won’t be a long relationship. Having sex is very important and waiting for a relationship may be a strain on your mental state possibly leaving you illegible for healthy social interactions, in the near and extended future. I say go to parties, just be safe about it.</p>
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Never change your morals for peer pressure or desire to fit in or conform. However, most people’s morals change over time to some degree. Being intellectually open to other sets of morals and reconsidering what is right is usually a good idea.</p>
<p>I’m like that except I drink on new yrs.I’m still in high school and I’ll be 19 when I’m a freshmen which is in 2013…the few college guys that I’ve met weren’t the party type atleast I don’t think.he was nice and we talked over fb after I met him.I think we were more friends b/c we didn’t ask eachother to hangout.I think being friendly is good and good guys will notice that you respect yourself and not dress slutty.Not all people that go to parties drink&have sex some just hang out with friends.
Maybe shy quiet guys notice you but are too scared to approach.Good Luck!</p>
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<p>im pretty muchbthe same nd m finding it difficult to fit in my peers</p>
<p>I understand that you don’t want to drink, and good for you - stick to your morals. But, I also think it’s a little bit unreasonable to disregard all of the guys who party as unfit potential relationships. If you are an interesting, relatively attractive person (it’s the reality), most guys - including those who drink and party - will not be deterred from you simply because you don’t drink. Yes, most people in college are not looking for committed, long-term relationships, but when they meet the right person that can change everything. </p>
<p>Try to let the guy make the first move for a while. If they like you enough, they will.</p>