<p>What makes a girl intimidating? My guy friend recently told me I was really intimidating when he first met me. I was really surprised because I think i am rather nice and friendly. So, out of curiousity I asked my other friends (girls and guys) and they said they could see me being intimidating?</p>
<p>Is that a bad thing? I’m not sure because my feelings were hurt and I don’t know if it has something to do with my appearance or my personality.</p>
<p>Any input?</p>
<p>you may be extremely attractive and exceptionally smart. a dangerous combo.</p>
<p>Agreed. For most guys, a girl who is very intelligent and/or attractive and/or has an awesome personality will seem “out of their league”, and will thus be intimidated by you. As a guy, I haven’t heard ‘intimidated’ in this particular context mean anything other than what I just described, although he could have meant something else. In any event, if my interpretation is correct, this is obviously far from a bad thing, so you shouldn’t lose any sleep over it.</p>
<p>yea it’s definitely not a bad thing, don’t lose sleep over it.</p>
<p>that means he thought you were out of his league.</p>
<p>Though it could also mean that you exhibit alot of sexuality (e.g. suggestive clothing) which is intimidating for some sexually-inexperienced young men.</p>
<p>*The first one is good, the second one is not so good.</p>
<p>ok but i mean when someone is intimidating doesn’t that mean he/she seems scary? the thing is it sounded like a bad thing when my friends said it. like oh you actually turned out to be a nice person when we got to know you but you seemed intimidating. idk i might be overanalyzing it but it just doesn’t feel like a positive.</p>
<p>Maybe they just meant you have a strong, assertive personality.</p>
<p>why dont you ask your friends what they ment?</p>
<p>As others have pointed out, it could mean something positive in that the guy might just have thought you were out of his league.</p>
<p>But yes, it can mean something else as well.
I’m sort of a shy, not very confident person (I’m a female, btw, not a guy), and I sometimes find certain people intimidating. It has nothing to do with whether I think they’re out of my league concerning dating. I sometimes even find certain females intimidating. It depends mostly on the person’s personality though and sometimes on factors that would be hard to put a finger on. In such cases, I guess it would be more of a negative than a positive thing. However, if you plan to be in a career where you’re in a leadership position or need to be taken seriously, it can help. And there’s always the possibility that people who are intimidated by you initially won’t be anymore after they get to know you.</p>
<p>Surprisingly, every once in a while, people are intimidated by me too! I don’t think the intimidation lasts long for them though.</p>
<p>Maybe you’re pretty confident? That seems to be intimidating to people who arent.</p>
<p>Intimidating = very attractive or very unattractive</p>
<p>Thanks for all the replies. Hmm its interesting what people think is intimidating in a person. I asked my guy friend and he said that it’s hard to put into words but something along the the lines of attractive + being put together + being confident.</p>
<p>Who knew that’s what make someone intimidating… but it’s not a bad thing like I initially thought it was.</p>
<p>sounds like his description is positive! – congrats!</p>
<p>I agree that “intimidating”-ness can come from a lot of things, but I think it also comes down to your demeanor in terms of how you approach people.
In my experience, some very attractive and intelligent friends have been perceived as “intimidating” by strangers at first (according to people’s feedback in their classes, workshops, etc.) but often I’ve found them very non-threatening… so I think it largely depends upon how you interact initially – for example, if you respond very academically, you might be perceived as intimidating (because you seem emotionally cold), so one way of being “less intimidating” would be to try and be super nice toward people when you meet them (don’t overdo it, but be warm and friendly)</p>
<p>whatever you do, don’t post pics! </p>
<p>/sarcasm</p>
<p>People tend to lean towards “intimidating” as a complement, but if its the only way he describes you it may just be a euphamism. Unless your very attractive and confident (you would know this if you were, no question) then hes probably throughing out an open ended comment that he can go with either way depending on who asks him.</p>
<p>You are probably hot. Or very muscular.</p>
<p>Is this you?</p>
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<p>haha ajanda funny but no.</p>
<p>eye contact… firm handshake</p>
<p>Actually, it’s not really a compliment. When I think someone is intimidating, it mostly means they’re not approachable.</p>
<p>Then again, It could just be me.</p>
<p>Cheers,
Alex</p>
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