<p>What do you guys say to this? actually, we’re not official bf/gf yet, but we’ve gone out on so many dates that it’s pretty much understood. anyway, the 'rents just told me their plans to go to Europe for spring break, and i’m thinking it’s okay to invite her to come, right? or are we not at that stage yet? also, should i offer to pay for her, since i’m inviting her or would that be toooo nice? she can afford to pay on her own, but i don’t want to seem like a cheapskate. when we go to Broadway and touristy stuff in NYC, we usually split, but that’s because we come up with those plans together. now it’s different. just lookin for some advice here.</p>
<p>oh yea, I haven’t actually discussed this with my parents yet, but i can’t imagine them saying no (they met her during parents’ weekend in the fall). if for some reason they don’t, though, I can still pay.</p>
<p>ask your parents first and make sure they/you would be okay with and capable to pay for it, just incase there’s a misunderstanding about who’s paying. If she thinks you’re paying and then you say no, it can be very akward. If she offers to pay then let her, but be willing to treat if you invite.</p>
<p>Might want to make the bf/gf thing official before or during the trip. Just my 2 nickels on the situation.</p>
<p>^yeah, I would definitely agree on that.</p>
<p>Oh, and it’s too soon to have your “GF” accompany you and your parents to a trip across the big lake. You are already in the first stage of a relationship and you are having her spend an extended time with your parents? Bad bad bad.</p>
<p>I would definitely make sure that you actually are her boyfriend before you propose this idea- you may think it’s understood but sometimes weird things happen. Also, how far in the future is this trip? You want to make sure your relationship will last through the trip, otherwise it could be ugly. </p>
<p>How long have you known this girl? I would say if you’ve known her (not necessarily dating, just being friends with) for less than a year, I wouldn’t go for it. On trips like that you will spend a lot of time with her and probably see different sides of her (and she will see the same for you). If you haven’t known her that long, it could blow a lot of stuff up.</p>
<p>I don’t know all the circumstances, so I can’t really say much than ask some questions. I went on a week-long school trip with a group that included my gf back in high school, so I have at least a little experience with it, and those are the questions I would ask before doing something like this. If done right, it could be very very fun, but otherwise, it could blow up and ruin your time, her time, and your parents’ time too.</p>
<p>you’re from lake forest. pay. :)</p>
<p>Has she met your parents before? How long have you known her? Are you 100% sure the bf/gf thing is “understood”? Where would she sleep? All these things sound umimportant, but you should really think about them before you even ask her or your parents.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t risk it. Just go, have a good time, and bring her back a really nice present. She’ll love you all the same.</p>
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Haha, I was thinking that too.</p>
<p>we took our sons girlfriend out for a football game at my youngest son’s school this fall. but a few days ago, we took a family trip to see “Love” and we did not invite her.</p>
<p>I think many factors should be considered:</p>
<p>how often does your family go to europe? is this a special “family” event? how serious is your relationship? </p>
<p>i don’t think those encompass all the areas that i would want to consider, but sometimes parents (rightfully, so, I might add) really want to spend time with just their own family. that doesn’t mean they don’t like your g/f or b/f, but sometimes they just want to reconnect as a family.</p>
<p>there’s plenty of time for b/f’s and g/f’s–but rarely is their enough family time.</p>
<p>i have kind of a similiar Q. I’ve been dating my bf for 2.5 yes, it’ll be over 3 when we leave for college. Were goin 2 diff. colleges and he’s going to play football at his college in ohio and i’ll be either at ou s. carolina or USC. Is it realistic to try and stay together or will it just ruin our relatioship?? Sorry to add another question but it seemed sort of on the samebf/gf topic.</p>
<p>For the second question, it depends. You and your boyfriend will probably break up freshman year. You have to ask yourself, “is it worth it?” and realistically how much you’d like to stay with this guy. </p>
<p>You still got time though.</p>
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<p>I agree. Get her a fantastic present. It’s way too soon for you guys to be going to another continent together (and with your parents too!).</p>
<p>I third the above post. It is way too soon and it could ruin your relationship.</p>