<p>People say I have an innate charisma, I’m able to make people laugh, involve them actively on stage and at public discussions…</p>
<p>But sometimes I think that I become too much “easy” in my speech and thereby - with all possible decorative non verbal communication and whatever people are attracted by - I say irreversible things, intended as a joke, but actually spontaneous mistakes with truly bad effects. Yeah I know “we learn from our mistakes”, but sometimes I feel that it’s better to be polite, follow certain standards of respect, than being totally charismatic.</p>
<p>I think some people equate charisma to over-confidence, arrogance and sometimes also foolishness/thoughtlessness.</p>
<p>I’m actually worried about my “charisma” at future job/admission interviews…
Should I train to switch off my spontaneity?</p>
<p>I wish I were charismatic…lol :P</p>
<p>lol learn to love your strenghs</p>
<p>and your weaknesses</p>
<p>just know them</p>
<p>:)</p>
<p>i wish i were too…people have told me im a grower, which explains why strangers hate me, and people who get to know me generally love me :)</p>
<p>jimbob, why? </p>
<p>charisma is often fake, you know the person is full of ****, but you’re taken in by it anyway. You’re the kind of person I’d like to be friends with. </p>
<p>Someone real, and not saying sweet things or doing awesome stuff atm.</p>
<p>Well people hate me because my sense of humor takes some getting used to…at first people think im an arrogant hateful prick but then they get to know me and laugh at my jokes and realize im just a truth-teller who’s the opposite of arrogant ;)</p>
<p>for example, this year i did real well in ap us history (best in my grade! yes i’m boasting!!) and my teacher wrote in his end of year comment: you are bright, conscientious, if sometimes trenchant. i looked it up…it means cutting…hehehehe…i made fun of him sooo many times in his class</p>
<p>lol that’s awesome. you’re original</p>
<p>:D</p>
<p>your description reminds me of someone.</p>
<p>we have a nickname for it</p>
<p>it’s called being a pseudoashole</p>
<p>Exactly… especially when I try to be “more” charismatic than usual, I say things I wouldn’t say otherwise… I feel overly easy with the situation.</p>
<p>I’d like to be specific:
- is it alright to shake hands before and after the interview? I somehow feel the interviewers were a bit surprised (probably negatively) by this gesture…
- is it good to smile all the time at a job/admission interview?
- make some “insider jokes”, that are usually understood by people who know about the subject? - this I did showing that I am more fluent with the subject in question… AS IF I WAS ON THEIR SAME LEVEL; is this a bit invadent towards them?
- respond to their jokes in an almost “public speaker-political speaker” attitude?</p>
<p>I wouldn’t say I am “charismatic,” but I am also pretty “easy” in conversation with people – I don’t hide my sense of humor. If I think something is funny I usually blurt it out, without thinking about how it might be taken. Often after a meeting I cringe and ask myself, “Why did I say that?! I probably came across as an a$$hole.”</p>
<p>It can be a problem. It can also work to your advantage. Depends on the interviewer, I guess.</p>
<p>alero86,</p>
<p>For the (few) interviews I’ve had, I’ve always shook hands with the interviewers before the interview, when they are introduced, and afterwards, when I’m thanking them for their time. Why do you feel that the interviewers may have though negatively of the gesture?</p>
<p>As for smiling, if it’s natural, I think it should be okay. If you have a cheesy grin plastered on your face, it looks kind of odd and fake, but otherwise I can’t see what’s wrong with it.</p>
<p>At every interview you go to, and every school for that matter, looks for something different. if that is your personality then its not bad, its you. Be yourself, life is too short to try to be perfect in every sitatuion.</p>