My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years now, and we are transitioning into our freshman year of college. We will be going to separate colleges, but want to stay together for a long-distance relationship. We love each other very deeply, and we both share an interest in sharing a life together.
However, he is nervous he will be missing out on potential college experiences. We are each other’s first relationship, and it turned into a pretty serious thing. He doesn’t know what it is like to date other people casually, and he doesn’t want to regret only having a high school-based relationship. But at the same time, he doesn’t want to lose me or what we have together, and neither do I. I don’t want to hold him back, but I also don’t want him to regret anything.
We’ve discussed having a “break” where we try just casually dating or being single for a few months at most, and then coming back to a serious relationship with each other, but that would only work if we were both interested in doing so. Because I don’t really see a point in just casually dating, and I don’t like the idea of him being with someone else, this wouldn’t work. We also don’t know if coming back together would make us awkward or unstable.
Is the risk of casual dating worth ruining something so special?
Could I have some advice on how to deal with this? I’m willing to do anything to make something work for us.