<p>Harry- there are boundaries in every relationship, not just interracial. I’m referring to verbal boundaries in interracial relationships. Like saying things that are offensive that you might say to your same-race friends as a joke. Or even slipping up and saying something. your overall perception of life has to change when you date someone of a different race. they have a different culture and see things differently than you do. Not saying you legit have to change your perception of LIFE, but people unexposed to different cultures/sexual orientations/ people with disabilities are ignorant (in the sense of they don’t know because they weren’t exposed and it isn’t their fault. I don’t mean it in the way that people KNOW what they’re doing/saying is wrong but they continue to do/say it.)</p>
<p>That’s what I mean. Most HS kids are sheltered. College is a great way to experience other cultures.</p>
<p>Those tests are interesting, but I don’t think they’re all that useful on an individual basis. I always do far worse on the second pairing, whatever it is.</p>
<p>As a male who is half black, I have never dated a black girl. It’s not that I am not attracted to them - I have seen plenty of attractive black females. But I can just relate to white girls a whole more more than I can with black girls. </p>
<p>On top of that, I know this may sound bad, but most black people I know are ghetto and don’t give a damn about their future. I don’t want to be surrounded by people like that, let alone date one. I can see me dating a black girl, I just haven’t met one worth pursuing.</p>
<p>On the topic of “seeing race in a relationship”, of course it is a factor but how much a factor varies person to person. I have been turned down specifically (she came out and said it) for being black because her white family would disown her if she dated a black guy – even though she made a move on me first. Interracial dating is becoming more common though.</p>
<p>Don’t get discouraged OP. You will meet someone soon.</p>
<p>My high school is really diverse (the largest demographic is hispanic) and we have a lot of interracial relationships. But we also have a lot of same-race relationships too. I think it entirely depends on who you hang out with. The athletes date each other, the musicians date each other, the stoners date each other, the nerds don’t date (jk, the nerds also date each other). But race doesn’t seem to be an issue at my school.</p>
<p>in my high school, i am one of two black females.
There is one black male, he’s like two years younger than me.
It does mean that I stand out a lot. People are really open and friendly,
but they aren’t really going to date the black girl. It’s international though,
so in that sense, people from different countries and cultures date each other.
There are also interracial relationships, the most common of which is Asian-White.</p>
<p>As for what I think, I’m attracted to guys despite their race. It doesn’t make it any easier though. Sometimes it makes dating difficult because what sucks more is that a quirky habitat, or personality flaw isn’t what they disprove of, it’s my race (which will never change) that bothers them. Being a Caribbean-American woman whose lived in Asia her entire life, I do not fit a stereotype. I don’t think it makes things easier though: asian guys see me as their friend (usually) I’m taller than most of the ones I know, white guys are never serious they kind of just want to “test it out”, black guys always seem so intimidated by me because I DON’T operate like a stereotypical black woman. </p>
<p>Don’t fret.
I assume that some of these things clear up with time.</p>
<p>I really don’t have any preference, I look for the personality over the ethnicity… </p>
<p>I must say though, in my experiences, most of the girls I knew that became close to me or had great personalities were often Asian, and sometimes white. I know a few Hispanic girls that are pretty cool, and maybe one or two black women that are cool. I’m not avoiding black girls or Hispanic girls at all, it’s just, most that I’ve met so far have obnoxious personalities and are not interested in the things that I’m interested in. </p>
<p>So, to sum things up, I really don’t have a preference of ethnicities. If I met my math/science/tech geek black soul mate tomorrow, then I’d be all for her. In my (limited) experience, however, most of my “matches” have been Asian, and a few others are white.</p>
<p>If I’m being honest, yes. I’m inclined to not be attracted to black guys. I think this is a cultural thing/because of my asian mom, who told me that she would disown me if I married a black guy. In the past I’ve only really been attracted to white/asians, so I suppose I seek those two races out.</p>
<p>As an African girl, I’ve always had a preference for white guys (found them more attractive). Probably because of the culture I was raised in and all the American movies featuring beautiful white boys I watched as a child. I didn’t start seeing asians, blacks or hispanics as attractive until I moved to the US. Its not that I wouldn’t date a black guy or an asian or a hispanic, its just that I always find myself crushing on white guys. </p>
<p>My school is predominantly white, maybe 10% black, 10% hispanic, 2% asian, but there is a lot of interacial dating between blacks, whites and hispanics, something I noticed this morning. Its rare to see asians dating other races, though. Personally, I would date people from any race, but I agree that many are turned off by racial stereotypes. I’m in the same boat as you OP, except people just assume I’m African American, even though I’m not. I’ve never really fit in a catagory, because most people who know me, or have heard me talk, consider me to be “white” even though I’m “black”, so I don’t know whats wrong with me.</p>
<p>I am a parent answering this thread. I think the answer is specific to your area. Here in the greater NYC area where we live, it does not seem to be an issue at all. I see many couples of different races. I see it in the families too, so that may be the reason. My boys have had no issue whatsoever in dating anyone of any race anymore than their friendships with those of other races.</p>
<p>You are an African American female who is experiencing subtle racism based on white beauty standards. It’s the type of racism that still exists. The old “Jim Crow” laws are gone from the 1950s. We have an African American president, and most colleges have at least a minor degree of diversity/integration. But there still is subtle racism. The problem with subtle racism is that minorities may be painfully aware of it while it is completely unregistered among white perception. A TV ad executive may blatantly hire only blonde white network anchors without perceiving himself or herself as racist. </p>
<p>White beauty standards are the key issues here. The white woman with long blonde hair and blue eyes is usually the Eurocentric preference in this type of racism, which is subtle. Movie starlets, singers, sororities, modeling agencies, ad executives, and news networks tend to prefer the blonde white woman. There are many articles written about it. They exist all over the internet. Here is one of them.
[Modeling</a> Industry Still Loves It Some Leggy White Blondes](<a href=“Modeling Industry Still Loves It Some Leggy White Blondes”>Modeling Industry Still Loves It Some Leggy White Blondes)</p>
<p>The key to counter this racism is to go to college someplace where there is a large amount of diversity. In the south, there are many colleges where African American women have active social lives, including dating. You seem to be in an isolated area with limited social opportunities for African American females. But it doesn’t have to be that way. </p>
<p>To be fair, white blonde women can also deal with discrimination - intelligence. Plus aging is inevitable for them too. Here is a blonde actress, Brigette Bardot, who had once been considered one of the most beautiful of the 1960s. Today, she is elderly. White beauty standards have human limits too. The blonde women who are getting attention now will someday get old with gray hair like anyone else. Aging comes for everyone.
[At</a> 73, Brigitte Bardot, the greying goddess | Mail Online](<a href=“At 73, Brigitte Bardot, the greying goddess | Daily Mail Online”>At 73, Brigitte Bardot, the greying goddess | Daily Mail Online)</p>
<p>When you look good, you look good, but I tend to go for the same race.
Personality usually will dictate whether I want to date the person or not.</p>
<p>From my observations as a white male, the race/gender “flavor of the week” is the non-ghetto Latina. Also, mixed black/white girls tend to be in vogue. </p>
<p>Seriously, the best looking girls I’ve met have all been racially ambiguous (think: Halle Berry). Stereotyping personalities may play a role. For example, respectable Latinas are generally considered to be exotic–but also chaste, religious, and motherly. </p>
<p>I wouldn’t worry too much if I were the OP. Skin color makes less of an issue for me in terms of judging physical appearance than do other physical features.</p>