<p>I’m an African American Female attending a High School that is predominantly White. The demographics of my HS are probably as follows: Caucasian (70 %), Hispanic (15 %), African American (10 %), Asian (3 %), Mixed (2%).</p>
<p>I’m 17 year old Junior and I’ve never been on a date or had a bf. Well unless you count elementary school, but I don’t think that really counts. I’m begining to wonder if ethnicity really does play a role in dating or maybe I’m just being paranoid. I feel like I’m a decent individual. I’m intelligent, sympathetic, funny, charismatic, and a good listener. I just don’t understand why I wouldn’t have at least gone on one date. </p>
<p>Lately I’ve been observing people and the relationships they are in. My school is pretty diverse, but for the most part White boys tend to date white girls, hispanic boys with girls, etc. But most black guys dont’ date black girls, they date white girls for the most part. Most black girls I know are single. I’m don’t understand why black girls seem to have the short end of the stick. I think it’s because people tend to stereotype black girls. And in some cases that “stereotype” holds some truth, but not in all cases.</p>
<p>I just wanted to know if race is a factor to you when you date someone. I do understand that there are also other factors that play a role too (personality, looks, smarts, etc). And also would my being African American really play a role in dating. I really hope it wouldn’t, and that my sad luck with boys is just a slight flaw in something else.</p>
<p>*I don’t mean to belittle or put down anyone. I would just like a better understanding. That’s all</p>
<p>^ daxlo’s right. people see black girls as loud talking, all up in your face, type of girls. my school is like yours except hispanics are like <2%.
im African American and personally im not even attracted to black guys. but nevermind that. dont worry, someone will come along <3</p>
<p>Most guys I know (including myself) are not attracted to black girls, idk why. It might have something to do with half of them being taller than me. as an asian male, i can sympathize with you somewhat (asian girls generally like white guys, white girls generally don’t like us).</p>
<p>I’m not at all attracted to Asian men, being an Asian female, myself. I don’t find Asian men to be unattractive, I just find it more appealing to date a guy who is outside the Asian bubble. I’ve been rejected on the sole basis that I am Asian. No assumption, that’s the explanation that I’ve gotten outright. I’ve also met a large amount of people who find me attractive, and actively seek Asian girlfriends, which came as a huge shock for me as I assumed when I was younger that Asians didn’t appeal to white guys. </p>
<p>I do think ethnicity does play a role in dating, but only to an aesthetic degree. Many couples in my school are interracial, and many are same-race. I have seen white guys date black girls, vice-versa. Many of the “ghetto” Blacks gravitate to other “ghetto” Hispanics. All of the athletes date each other regardless of race. In reality, I don’t think race is as huge of a factor as your place on the high school hierarchy.</p>
<p>I think having a preference or saying “I don’t like ____ boys/girls” is ignorant/discriminatory, and I wouldn’t want to date someone who boasted about that. Keep it to yourself. Or someone who thought like that, in general. </p>
<p>I don’t judge by race, but rather I they respect me/ if they have goals (college, etc) and other things. </p>
<p>But not everyone is like that. I do get reject solely because I’m African American, and I’ve never fit into the “loud ghetto crazy” stereotype of black girls.</p>
<p>(Generally speaking; in response to your thread title) Yes. There was research done about this and a chart showing a person of race X’s willingness to date someone of another person of race Y’s was created. African American females were shown across all across all ethnic groups of males, even African American males, to not hold great appeal when it came to dating. Asian and Caucasian males and females were, across the board, the most appealing. I’ll try to find the link to this.</p>
<p>(Individually speaking; in regards to my own preferences) No, I don’t care what ethnicity.</p>
<p>I don’t think race is a huge factor, at least not at my school.
You mentioned you were smart, so… when i was complaining to a friend about the lack of guys she told me:
smart guys like dumb girls; dumb guys like dumb girls, so what does that leave smart girls…cats (lol, but sad) we’re the girls guys will be looking for when they want a real relationship, not a high school fling…I hope</p>
<p>No, I don’t consciously prefer a certain race or ethnicity. I am an eighteen year old lesbian. I know plenty of people who do openly prefer certain races though. Seems gross in a way, I think I read a book on that a long time ago, but I completely forget the supporting points. So now I’m just left with feeeelingz.</p>
<p>For me personally… an attractive chick in general. I’ve liked hispanics, asians, black girls(not as much… sorta annoying no offense), and white girls.</p>
<p>More for the person instead of the race. But if I don’t see a physical attraction, I’m not gonna be interested regardless your race.</p>
<p>it’s hard to not factor race into the equation considering that largely determines your appearance, and appearance (this is the truth for most people) does matter. i just found out today from googling an acquaintance from last year’s name that she is very very insecure about being asian and short, and how she doesn’t like asian guys, but only tall pretty white guys. i had her in a class last year, and i thought she was really hot. which saddens me, because if she, a hot asian girl, finds herself ugly, then what about ugly asian girls? i was shocked by how much she spilled over the internet. like i said, i didn’t know her that well, but even if i did, i doubt i would’ve found out about all of this. it’s amazing what you can find out about people from googling their name and following the links that follow. anyway, she’s in college now and i’m a senior in high school. she was in my AP bio class last year. i remember seeing her always wearing like 3 inch heels, even when we went to the zoo, which she got called out for and she was like ‘oh i forgot.’ but i doubt it. i think she just didn’t want people to see how tall she really is (she’s like 4’11"). she’s really really smart, and hates how people think that she doesn’t want to have sex, hang out etc, because of it. anyway that’s been on my chest all day. just wanted to get it out</p>
<p>but yes, race does matter for most people i think. now, diff ppl have diff racial preferences, so i’m sure it’ll all work out for everybody.</p>
<p>! When you get to Smith (assuming you’re still interested then) we’re getting together to discuss all of the things we agree on. Definitely agree with you that it’s ignorant/discriminatory. Funny how the general excuse is “oh no it’s just a matter of aesthetics.” Like racism has no possible affect on the perception of beauty. Reminds me of the implicit associations test.</p>
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<p>Race only matters to me to a certain degree. Some people are sheltered and thus ignorant.
All of my white friends are sheltered, despite attending a 54% minority school. They’ve said some pretty ignorant/ disrespectful things that they didn’t think would be offensive. Or they’d say “no offense but…”</p>
<p>I don’t want to offend any white people here, but I couldn’t see myself dating a white guy because of the experience I’ve had with them. No I don’t say “i don’t like white guys” because they are pretty cute haha. Just, I dont feel like having him cross that boundary. </p>
<p>In an interracial relationship you can’t be “colorblind.” you have to say “yes I am ___ but my partner is ___ I don’t think of them any different because of this, but I realize and acknowledge that there are boundaries.”</p>
<p>Oh, and I’ve never met a black guy who respected me and wasn’t trying to have sex, in a gang, tattoos, smokes/drinks, and constantly dancing/going to parties. </p>
<p>I know there are good black men out there, but I’m surrounded by immature boys. </p>
<p>Anyway, that’s how race should affect your relationship (the quote thing I said.)</p>
<p>At my school the white girls get shafted. So I get how you feel. Our school is like 15% white, 80% Asian. White guys date Asian girls, Asian guys only date Asian girls… and white girls don’t get asked out on dates! It can be pretty frustrating, but hopefully it’ll change in college…</p>
<p>Anyway, I personally would probably date people of any race, but as I get older and am looking for a potential husband, it’ll become more and more important for me to date someone Jewish, as I want to marry a Jewish guy. Thus ruling out most non-white people.</p>
I’m begining to wonder if ethnicity really does play a role in dating or maybe I’m just being paranoid. I feel like I’m a decent individual. I’m intelligent, sympathetic, funny, charismatic, and a good listener. I just don’t understand why I wouldn’t have at least gone on one date. </p>