@snowball – we need to keep each other posted. D lives in Europe but we will have the wedding here in either 6 months or 12 months depending on their performance schedules (two musicians). Though I would normally classify the honeymoon fund or cash options as crass, I really do not envisage other options. They are not completely “set up” domestically and in better circumstances they would LOVE a few household items. I told her I am gifting her a little extra cash so that they can have and informal party/reception for their friends and colleagues there and those who want to bring household gifts might do it then. I don’t like to tell people how or what to give as gifts, but I think at this point we may have not other option.