<p>I’m asking this because, I’m planning to ask my friend to be my girlfriend. But, I also enjoy her as a normal friend. What are the chances that if she rejects me, we’ll still be comfortable seeing each other as friends? Will there be any awkwardness?</p>
<p>from my experiences the ‘friendship’ always ends after a failed courtship.</p>
<p>“oh hes just being nice cause he wants some”</p>
<p>Eh? It depends on the nature of your friendship. If you actually like her as a friend regardless, I think there’s a good chance you’ll remain friends if you don’t push it.</p>
<p>It’s lose-lose.</p>
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<p>From my experiences, the friendship also falls apart when you guys pursue a relationship and the relationship eventually/inevitably ends.</p>
<p>From my experiences, friendship is possible after a “firm relationship rejection,” but only about half the time. And even then, the friendship is often weaker than it was before.</p>
<p>I’m sure all of us guys have been in your situation before. I tried to go out with a girl who was my friend before. It didn’t turn out well; we are still friends to this day, but the drama and emotions that ensued were just terrible. Ehh, if I could though, I’d do it again. I would have regretted not knowing the outcome and have learned a lot through it.</p>
<p>A girl has tried to do it to me too. We’re also still good friends to this day, but the open communication we used to have isn’t so great anymore.</p>
<p>don’t ask her to be your girlfriend…dear god…that would scare me off in like 0.5 seconds</p>
<p>ask her on a DATE</p>
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I agree.
Any conversation beginning with “would you like to maybe be my girlfriend please?” is not going to go over well. That is just really awkward and probably rather abrupt for her.</p>
<p>What almost always happens. You say, “oh, but we can still be friends” blah, blah, blah. Keep up that facade for a bit. Then find a new girl, and the friendship fades.</p>
<p>Very rarely will the friendship actually stick…but it definitely is possible.</p>
<p>Friends with benefits.</p>
<p>Depends on how much you like her and how secure you are with yourself. </p>
<p>If you really like her, it will probably be hard to hang out with her right after she rejects you.</p>
<p>If you’re kind of insecure, it may be hard to be around the girl who doesn’t reciprocate your feelings.</p>
<p>But if you’re confident, and you like her in a more fleeting way, it shouldn’t be a problem being friends afterwards unless she’s weird.</p>
<p>just wait alittle bit after you get rejected, if you do that is</p>
<p>and you could always try to make a joke of getting rejected to trty to make it not so awkwarrd</p>
<p>As someone who has been in your situation before, it is only worth it if you are crazy about her and the pain of being around her and not being with her is too much to bear. This is assuming you guys are very close friends. If she is integrated into your group of friends to the point where she is “one of the guys” then you better like her a lot, otherwise you are better off finding someone else. If she is a friend but not very close, then it might be worth it. You also have to be very confident she likes you too. It will affect your friendship, but sometimes this kind of friendship isn’t worth it.</p>
<p>Also, don’t ask her to be your GF straight up. Flirt with her and see how she responds. The only problem is that she may think it is a joke and flirt back while not being serious. </p>
<p>This just goes to show that it is extrmely rare for a woman and a man to be close friends without at least one being attracted to the other.</p>
<p>my thoughts: if you care about the friendship, it’s better that she rejected you and you guys didn’t hook up</p>
<p>You have to ask yourself one question:</p>
<p>Am I friends with her for any reason other than wanting to hook up with her/ go out with her? aka, if she suddenly became ugly and fat, would I still be friends with her?</p>
<p>If that be the case (and I have done that once or twice - it’s nice having a hot girl as a friend for various reasons) - then as soon as she rejects you, you will no longer feel any appeal in the relationship and it’ll be over. But alas, that also means it was based on a lie all along anyway!</p>
<p>I’d tread carefully. Does there have to be a grand gesture or question? Is there no way of knowing whether she’s attracted to you or interested to you in that way at all? You can’t feel anything out?</p>
<p>I’d go for it then report back here. It’ll make for funny reading if nothing else.</p>
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<p>That makes sense. But how do I distinguish a date from what we normally do. How should I emphasize that going to the mall with her and eating dinner afterwards is for romantic reasons?</p>
<p>If you ask her out to dinner at a nice place she’ll get the idea. I wouldn’t necessarily recommend this as a first step though. How often do you hang out with her one on one?</p>
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<p>Ummm… I’ve only known her for a year and we go to different (far away) universities. We talk on the phone a few times per month. We’ve also had lunch (1v1) together a few times during the summer.</p>
<p>in my case, nope
after I got rejected, our friendship went downhill. We argued a lot and now she attempt to aviod me (but she fails at at it lol). And to think we were good friends a couple of months ago…
sigh ■■■ lol</p>