<p>We do a lot of things for our children that cost money without considering ROI issues. I see no difference in colleges. Yes, getting a kid to do engineering, accounting, nursing is more likely to be a good return on your college money than an anthropology, political science, and other such major. i think most of us know that. But if you have kid who has no interest in the more lucrative fields. pushing the matter is not such a good quality of live endeavor for all concerned at times and the bottom line is you can’t push a noodle. If the kid really doesn’t want to do it, he won’t. </p>
<p>I don’t look at my home or my kids’ college as investments. Nor did I so consider little league, music lessons and all the other things that I did with my children. They are quality of life, and the way to live ones life. And when looking at prestigious universities, it’s more whether or not I, DH, my kids want them to have the experience and fulfilling the desire to go to them, rather than a value judgement. Like anything else, if it’s truly not affordable, it’s off the table, and with selective school, you gotta get accepted first. But, yes, I think if a school is a kid’s first choice for whatever reason, even if it’s due to prestige, and if you can afford it, it’s worth the premium. I would happily pay it. But scrub port a johns for it, truly threaten health, or move into a dangerous neighborhood, leave so little for retirement that I would be in trouble, nope, not worth it. But every person, family has defintions of affordability. Go on an austerity regiment, I’d do, and am doing though I don’t like it. Some of my kids picked schools that were at the top of what we decided we could afford when there were very good less expensive choices. But we wanted the to have what they wanted as long as we could afford it. Just as we will help them buy cars, but a new Mercedes, or BMW is off the table, I expect we’ll help as we can for their buying a home, but again, it’ll be an affordability issue.</p>
<p>Nothing new about dropouts doing well, or those from unknown schools. Those good at what they do, and are lucky enough to find the opportunities will generally succeed. But when one looks at over all stats, it’s pretty clear that the odds are better with certain backgrounds. Most college dropouts are not going the Scott Walker, Steve Jobs, Bill Gates routes. If you have a dream about sitting on the Supreme Court, it’s pretty danged clear what ups your odds these days.</p>