I transferred to BU college of comm from Syracuse Newhouse my second semester of sophomore year and now I want to go back. Is that a bad idea? Transferring has been a really difficult transition for me, even though I am very social and outgoing. I feel like newhouse was better for my major and had more clubs and organizations. While its been nice being in boston, I’ve been pretyy dissapointed by the comm program compared to newhouse. is it a bad idea for me to transfer back? i left mostly because of social reasons and i didn’t like being in the middle of nowhere. Now i miss having a campus. I’m scared to go back and experience the same issues I was having before. I also think I burned some bridges leaving, so i’m not sure how I would feel and how things would be when I got back. I also would be behind because I’ve had to retake classes since you have to start from scratch when your in com and because of the BU hub. I could catch up over the summer by doing summer classes at community college, but I just more want to know if this is worth it. How does BU com vs syracuse newhouse compare and in the long run where would I probably be more happy?
Wherever you go, there you are.
Think about it.
I feel like I’m not enjoying BU and my experience would be better at Syracuse. Is it bad to keep wanting to be somewhere else? If i went back to syracuse I would definitely stay.
Then you answered your own question.
You should be at the best place for you.
If you think it’s SU and they’re willing to have you back, then don’t look back.
It’s not bad…if it’s a good idea for you.
Good luck.
its also early and has only been a month. Should i wait it out and see?
Will it look bad to return to the college I transferred out of?
It’s only been a month?? Well you need to give it more than a month.
Nothing will look bad - and only you and your experience matter.
Don’t worry what others will think. Worry about what is best for you.
Good luck.
No. It will not look bad.
I think that a lot of people will dislike me if I go back though because i hurt people when i left. i still have some good friends but would i rather stay with my fresh start or go back to what I know but with some people who don’t like me?
I’m confused.
You asked a question. You got similar answers. Yet you seemingly don’t like the answers or want people to give you a different answer. But that’s not how it works.
I think, when someone transfers, for the most part, they are out of sight, out of mind at theold school. Sure, you may still communicate but you’re not seeing anyone regularly.
If you had friends there before and you reappear, I don’t see why anyone would be upset with that. If they don’t want to be around you, then they will simply avoid you.
In the end, you have to decide where you want to be. If it’s SU and they’ll take you back (and you can afford it, etc), then go back - and you’ll likely continue with old friends and develop some new ones.
On the flipside, if you just transferred for Spring (never easy), it’s a bit soon to say - it’s not going to work here. I mean, something was wrong with SU for you that you made the decision to leave.
You have to think about - what do you really want. Then make that decision and look ahead, not behind.
Do for you, not for others.
Good luck.
My point upthread was that so far, the commonality between you not liking Syracuse and not liking BU is YOU… you’ve only been at BU for a month and already you’re regretting the transfer?
I think you might want to commit to doing your best- right now- where you are. Academically, socially, athletically- whatever interests you have, get out of your room and meet people, participate in activities, get a sense of what BU is all about. You can’t possibly know that you don’t have enough opportunities where you are after a few short week.
Circle a date on the calendar- after midterms? And reconsider the transfer after that. But if you always have your eye on the exit, it’s really really hard to develop the kind of relationships and opportunities that make college worthwhile.
Do you remember the term “growth mindset”? It’s likely to have been introduced sometime in your high school years. At the time it might feel like something boring and useless. Well, you are now in a situation to actually practice growth mindset. Give it a try. Take a short break (half a day, an evening, a weekend, however long you can manage) from your current obligations, clear your mind, and think about how you want your life to be 5 years from now. With that goal in mind, think about your current life, what obstacles you have, what you can do to overcome them, and who you can ask for help. maybe a nice peer or trustworthy adult? make a plan to talk to them.
The point is, if you feel “this is not working for me”, the instinct is “that may work for me”. However, you also need to think “is there anything I can do to change it”.
All the things you did not like about Syracuse will still be there when you go back, maybe even worse with the “burned bridges”. Plus now being behind.
I think you will be happier when you stop looking at all of the other things you could do, and focus deeply on finishing your degree at your current school.
Hi-- Following up from this post I made earlier this year. I am starting to like BU more but still feel like Syracuse Newhouse is better for my career and will get me better connections in the tv/film industry which I hope to go into, so I want to go back for that reason. What should I do?
Only you can decide.
SU may or may not be better for you - but if you are warming up to BU, do you want to start again?
No one can truly answer for you.
You might check into - if you go back - how will your aid be (if you had before) and will all BU classes transfer?
But you should go where you want to be - and get comfortable with the decision so you don’t alternate again.
Go in with the mindset where ever you end up that this is where you are.
Best of luck.
Have you applied to transfer back?
What are your BU grades like?
Have you applied to transfer?
When you speak about burnt bridges abnd hurting feelings, did you actively insult or do something against classmates or faculty members?