<p>I am going to be a freshman at Eastern Connecticut State University. I also have two other good friends there that will be going. Both of them want to be my room mate. I was thinking the three of us could get a suite. One type of suite has four people and the other has five. Either way I will be able to socialize with other people besides my friends from school. Would it be an okay idea if I were to be in the same suite but different bed room?</p>
<p>I don’t know from personal experience but from my college friends specifically one good friend of mine doesn’t think its a good idea because she always said you don’t know who your friends are until you actually live with them and no not those weekend sleepovers but day to day living.</p>
<p>She told me that she decided to dorm with her bestfriend and things didn’t turn out great
her best friend was using her by making her do all the cleaning and would put off paying the rent(they lived in a apartment)</p>
<p>and you would think it would have been easier to tell her but it wasn’t but she didn’t want to cause tention between their frienship… which eventually did happen it was a bad fall out…etc.</p>
<p>but this is her experience and it may not be yours but this is just a heads up </p>
<p>The thing with living in a suite with 4 or 5 people it might sound awesome but you also have to think
coming in with best friends you will have the possibility of alienating people or your roomates without meaning to and thus eliminating the possibility of meeting new people or not as many as you planned that’s not ideal… I’m not trying to be negative or anything you never know you and your best friend may have the time of your life together </p>
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<p>If you do, it’s very likely that you will finish off the year NOT being best friends anymore. Besides, why limit yourself? Part of going to college is rooming with someone that you don’t know. It really opens your mind up to new experiences, etc.</p>
<p>^ Unless your roommate is a complete prick with equivalent friends who decide to steal $2,000 in goods and your roommate decides to act dumb. </p>
<p>Ahhh the fun and joy of mysterious roommates!</p>
<p>You will expand your social circle by living with people who you don’t know. Usually when I decide to join new social circles such as clubs, I purposely discourage my other friends from going with me because it’s easier to befriend new people if I don’t have a familiar person to socialize with instead.</p>
<p>Alternatively, living with friends or becoming close friends with new suitemates may make it harder for you to study because you will be too busy socializing. My current suite is dead-silent most of the time and it’s been great because now I can actually study in my room throughout the entire day instead of having to go to a quiet place like the library. I can also fall asleep at night without so much talking keeping me awake. </p>
<p>Besides, I can always save socializing for clubs. Clubs are better for socializing anyway IMO because the people in your clubs have similar interests.</p>
<p>“The thing with living in a suite with 4 or 5 people it might sound awesome but you also have to think coming in with best friends you will have the possibility of alienating people or your roomates without meaning to and thus eliminating the possibility of meeting new people or not as many as you planned that’s not ideal.”</p>
<p>true, but i would say that as long as you’re making an effort to NOT alienate the others, you should be fine.</p>
<p>Yes!
As suitemates, you can hang out together and have a ton of fun, without getting as “close and personal” as roomates can get.
Protip:
Do the cleaning together</p>
<p>thank you all for your feedback. As of right now I am applying for a suite with my friends. My two friends are choosing to room together in one bedroom. I will room with two other girls but just in a different bedroom. All five of us will share the vanity and bathroom. It will be much easier since I don’t have to worry about being with them ALL the time. :)</p>
<p>I think it’s fine with guys because generally we don’t care about personal stuff as much…but from my experience, when my girl friends live together, they end up hating each other by the end of the year. Usually it’s for (in my opinion) mundane things like leaving hair in the shower, hanging out with the bf too much, etc etc. The list goes on and on.</p>