<p>I want ot join a fraternity in vollege, to make more friends. However, I’m gay. So do u guys think this is a good idea?</p>
<p>It depends. Some are more accepting but as a whole, I would say that frats are conservative and uncomfortable / intollerant with the issue.</p>
<p>Frats –> partiers with below average intelligence
dumb people –> ignorant toward social issues.
Ignorance –> conservatism
conservatism –> the cause of bigotry</p>
<p>to sum up, frats are stupid. ;)</p>
<p>I’m in a sorority and I’m a lesbian. I’m kind of closeted though…Greek life can be a little homophobic and annoying since everything’s about meeting guys and socials and stuff, but overall I don’t think it’s a huge problem.</p>
<p>I’m openly gay in a fraternity. It’s been a great experience and I have had no issues. However I’m at Berkeley which may be a special case. I encourage you to visit the fraternities wherever you are, see if you find a group of guys with whom you click. Just be upfront and judge for yourself.</p>
<p>^^ so all conservatives are ignorant? Spoken like an ignorant liberal.</p>
<p>Yeah, honestly Ivystriver I’m pretty liberal and I think that your logic there is pretty ridiculous. And ignorant.</p>
<p>^/^^ I was going to point out the same thing. I consider myself more of a conservative than a liberal (but independent, if anything) and I’m gay. I do agree that the general intelligence level of frats are lower than most, but it doesn’t make them ignorant homophobic conservatives. And being a conservative doesn’t make you an ignorant homophobe either. Aaron Shock. 'Nuff said.</p>
<p>In the south if you are openly gay then you will not get a bid from anywhere. If you come out while already a brother they wont kick you out but it will give your fraternity a bad reputation and make certain people uneasy</p>
<p>Yes the south is backwards in many aspects. Especially when it comes to greek life where you have the most conservative people in the united states. I know plenty of fraternities that would not bid someone for less reasons (because someone is black, poor, etc.)</p>
<p>I recommend staying in the closet unless you are surrounded by supportive friends, which will be hard to find where I come from</p>
<p>good idea, but don’t tell anyone
seriously</p>
<p>Depends on what you mean by “fraternity”.</p>
<p>If you mean the stereotypical “frat” that was established forever and ever ago with legacies, pledges, hazing, hell week, etc then I would stay away. My school has one of the largest Greek systems in the country, and even though I don’t doubt that there is at least one gay student in each frat (possibly each pledge class), I would highly doubt that any of them are open about it. While the “frat boy” stereotype is just that, a stereotype, it does hold true in many respects. The traditional Greek system (fraternities and sororities) aren’t exactly known to be the most socially liberal.</p>
<p>On the other hand, there are plenty of other types of fraternities that you can join and feel at home in depending on their availability on your campus. Co-ed fraternities and academic/honors fraternities are a good way to get that same feeling of kinship and brotherhood. They are also a lot less expensive.</p>
<p>Is there a specific reason you want to join a fraternity besides making friends? Because it really is more or less a lifestyle, and there are PLENTY of ways to make friends besides going greek.</p>
<p>well,I don’t really know why I want to join a fraternity besides making friends.</p>
<p>To be honest, I think it really depends on where you go. For example, here in Berkeley, being openly gay isn’t even an issue. In fact, there’s a local gay-interest social fraternity that’s been doing quite well. They literally call themselves “the gay fraternity.”</p>
<p>Yet, if you’re in the south, it might be another issue. The acceptance of openly gay people in fraternities really reflects on the cultural norms in the area.</p>
<p>In any case, it’s great that you’re trying to make a few friends. The right chapter for you will accept that you are an openly gay person, and the people in it will be true friends with you.</p>
<p>So, the idea is: go to rush, but if they seem to have an issue with you being openly gay, consider another chapter. Trust your gut feelings when it comes to deciding whether or not to accept a bid.</p>
<p>Thank you excelblue
your advise si really helpful.
BTW do u know if purdue is a consevative school or not</p>
<p>How do Greeks have a lower IQ? Most politicians including Presidents were Greek. Most athletes that require a good IQ depending on their positions were Greek. Greeks tend to have a higher GPA than the All Men’s and All Women’s GPA.</p>
<p>Purdue is in Indiana which is rather conservative so yes. However, the student population has nothing against the LGBT community. There actually are organizations for LGBTs. Not sure if people would not give you a bid if they found out you were gay but it depends for every house.</p>
<p>Wait a year before going Greek. There are so many other ways to make friends that it’s not necessary to join a frat. Get involved with your campus LGBT group! Then you can evaluate frats and see if any of them are what you’re interested in.</p>
<p>im one of two openly gay guys in my fraternity, and it’s extremely small. it is a community service frat though, not an ifc frat. There is a good social aspect to my frat though, even though we’re not a social frat. so it worked out well for me.</p>
<p>however, my friend is gay and was in an ifc frat. he wasnt wanted there, but got in because the president and internal vice president let him in behind closed doors. he later found out because it became apparent that the other actives did not want him there, and they kicked him out.</p>
<p>So choose wisely.</p>
<p>Yeah, it doesn’t matter if it’s fair or not, but if you’re gay and the brothers are not OK with it, you it’s going to be difficult to truly have brotherhood.</p>
<p>Any mature person can work with anyone else, but becoming best friends and having special bonds requires compatibility on top of that.</p>
<p>It really comes down to: if there’s a fraternity that will accept you for being openly gay, great. However, if not, that’s just too bad.</p>
<p>Waiting a semester (or even a year) is a good idea as it allows you to get a more complete picture of the community. However, if your gut feeling tells you that a fraternity is right for you during your first semester, you can probably go ahead with it.</p>
<p>I am sure that they’re are many, many fraternities that would not care at all about having a gay friend. I hang out in the typical “jock, party” crowd (ie the type to join frats) and when one of our friends came out last year, it was not an issue and all of our friendships with him are completely the same. Also, the conservative comment was just plain dumb. So don’t worry. Scope out the scene, try to find guys that you get along with, and if they seem cool then give it a try.</p>
<p>purdue has a huge Greek community! I’m sure it will be easy to find one group that won’t be mean. besides kids these days are becoming more and more accepting of gays and lesbians so I’m sure you’ll be okay.</p>
<p>Kevin are you going to purdue? cuz I am too and I’d be class of 15!</p>
<p>yea i’m going to purdue too!!! i’d be class of 15 too!!
what major r u in? I’m in HTM</p>