<p>It doesn’t sound weird but it’s indicative of a weakening relationship between you two.</p>
<p>Maybe the gay friend isn’t really gay o.O</p>
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These are four gigantic red flags, in order of increasing severity. Can you not see that you have a problem?
You aren’t wrong, it is ridiculous, but you’re also terrible at reading signs. Girls do this sh** all the time. I’ve been in the exact same situation as you (minus the flamboyantly gay dude) and it is the most classic sign of a deteriorating relationship. (My GF and I broke up shortly after.) </p>
<p>When a girl withdraws from you so thoroughly without explanation, it means she’s psychologically prepping herself to break up with you. Either she’s cheating on you (most likely scenario…occam’s razor) or she’s just over you for whatever reason. Mentally, she’s hedging her bets. She doesn’t want to break it off completely and risk making a big mistake so instead she suffocates it slowly where she can maintain some plausible deniability.</p>
<p>Girls only do this when they’re cheating on you or are over you. If something other than those two things were the issue, she would at least apologize for her aloofness and explain that she has other crap to deal with. Go with your gut feeling, which should tell you that the ship is sinking fast. </p>
<p>I’ve been in this situation with GFs before so as far as practical advise goes: DO NOT talk to her about this. She obviously doesn’t respect you or care about your feelings anymore. She’s clowning you hard and she’s making you look like an idiot, don’t play into it. </p>
<p>holyschmidt has the ONLY good advice on the thread. Start by ceasing contact–don’t ask about her day, don’t ask her why she’s acting weird, don’t bring up the tension, just ignore her. Act like you have better things to do and she’s not worth your time. Go out with your bros and have fun. If she starts texting you and asking why you’re ignoring her, don’t fall for the trap. Just brush it off and tell her not to worry about it. For every 4 texts she sends, you send her 1. Be terse and brief. After a while she will be perplexed and desperately try to get your attention if she still wants you. If not, then **** it. You don’t need her.</p>
<p>EDIT: this is really long, sorry about that haha</p>
<p>Jesus, this chick isn’t automatically cheating on him just because she might be bored with the relationship. Here’s a little bit of reality, try it on for size:</p>
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<li><p>Maybe she’s hanging out with her gay friend because he empathizes more with her. I’m not trying to appeal to a stereotype, but in general, gay men tend to be more willing to talk about their emotions and listen to other people talk about their emotions than straight men are.</p></li>
<li><p>Seems like the only time you’ve tried talking to her is to ask about sex. Maybe she’s bored of having sex with you. Maybe your game is off. Or maybe she’s sick of your only conversations being “hey can we bone?”</p></li>
<li><p>Maybe she only hangs out with this friend because she gets the vibe that you wouldn’t hang out with the friend with her. Even if you aren’t homophobic in any way, you’re obviously jealous of the guy, and she’s probably picking up on that.</p></li>
<li><p>As a female, I can promise you there are other reasons that girls don’t want to be around their boyfriends other than cheating. The problem here seems to be a total lack of communication. If you don’t want her to get bored of you, you should try this:</p></li>
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<p>First, talk to her. Tell her that you miss just hanging out (I’m not saying don’t say that you miss sex, but be sensitive to the fact that while sex is a hugely important part of relationships, it isn’t the most important part. Maybe you can get her back by mentioning that you miss more than her blowjobs). Ask her if she would like to hang out with her friend and you. And lastly, why not try talking to this friend on your own? Ask him if he can give you any tips on what your girlfriend is feeling - what has she been complaining about?</p>
<p>Lastly, if it all doesn’t work out, remember that you’re young, you’re in college, and as long as you have a good attitude and a willingness to work things out (with an organ besides your dick), you should find another girl quickly.</p>
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Better yet, why don’t saw your own nuts off, wrap them in a bow, and hand them to your gf and her flamboyant new bff. Because that’s essentially what this girl is advocating. Jesus Christ, I hope you have some self-respect OP. Your gf is CLOWNING you and other dumb girls are advocating that you lie down and make it even easier for her to make you look like an idiot.</p>
<p>holyschmidt gave you great advice. I gave you the benefit of my (strikingly) similar experiences. Whatever you do, don’t take relationship advice from a girl. EVER.
Post #24 is garbage.</p>
<p>Yeah dude from previous relationship, I know that ignoring a girl is the best way to make her crawl over you. It’s so simple and effective. Best bet is to just avoid her, and like the guy said above me, avoid her calls and messages. She will eventually miss that “attention” you have been giving her and will do whatever she has to do to get it trust me works like a charm! If she doesn’t notice that you have been giving her less attention, then she’s probably not worth it. Finnaly, you should also find a female friend to hang out with. This will spark jealousy and will make you girlfriend cry in despair as she sees you smiling with another woman ( make it only a friendy interaction). Interact with people other than you gf. Show her that you don’t need her to be happy and she will come back crawling for more.</p>
<p>Solid information here, thanks guys.</p>
<p>@ Caillebotte: I love how, in order of increasing severity, it’s:</p>
<p>1.) not studying together
2.) not going out to places together
3.) not hanging out together
4.) NOT HAVING SEX ■■■■ RED FLAG RED FLAG</p>
<p>Lol. This is why relationships are vastly overrated, IMHO.</p>
<p>OP, why don’t you just break up with her? Just tell her it’s off, see how she reacts, and if she says she still wants to go out with you, then bring up all these concerns. This way, you don’t have to wait for her to notice (which may sometimes take a long time if she’s already not hanging out with you frequently). If she’s like, “All right, it’s over,” then obviously she wanted to break up with you a while ago and you’ll be done with it. Faster results, man.</p>
<p>You’re young and this relationship obviously isn’t working out (no sex in a month and a half? You’re not even in a relationship anymore—it’s a friendship). Cut it off.</p>
<p>^ Because relationships can’t be relationships without sex, amirite?</p>
<p>relationship is over obviously</p>
<p>move on</p>
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OP has had no sexual relations with his “girlfriend” in a month and a half, yet they used to have sex multiple times each week. So, to answer your question with respect to OP’s relationship: no.</p>