<p>My parent want me to be a doctor and I don’t mind but I don’t care about making people healthier!i want my family to be stable financially!i grew up in a poor family!so my question is do you guy think its bad to be doctor only for the money?!i guest a lot of people are doctor for the same reason!</p>
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<p>This question gets posted to the Engineering forum all the time. Some variant of I don’t like math/science/engineering but it has better prospects than other things that I’m really interested in.</p>
<p>The usual answer is don’t do it if you don’t love it. The school work is typically very rough and you need that love of the major to get you through the really tough times. It’s easy to drop out and major in something easier.</p>
<p>I’d guess that med school is worse.</p>
<p>Seriously, DON"T do it if you don’t love to heal people. The academics are brutal, but what is even more demanding is the emotional toll of seeing people miserable, in dire straits, and dying, every day. It is unbelievable how miserable some diseases are to live with, and how miserable many patients lives are. If you really love medicine, you learn to deal with the emotional trauma that such suffering brings. If you don’t truly love it, it’ll drain you and you will be depressed and continually miserable.</p>
<p>And then there’s the ethics of the thing. Would you want to see a doctor who doesn’t care about patients, but only about making money?</p>
<p>You are telling me not to do it because I may not be able to handle it emotionally?trust me I have I strong mind(nothing scare me) and I love learning and I am good academically!i discuss it with my councilor and he told me I will be fine because I will his sure I will end up caring about people but I don’t think so!i post this question on CC because I know inside of me that it not fair for my future patient so I am to trying to find so reason not to do it!on another hand I don’t want to disappoint my parents</p>
<p>Do you really want to do something for forty or fifty years that you don’t love to do?</p>
<p>No one is doubting your academic abilities. That’s no reason to let other people decide your career for you.</p>
<p>Part of growing up is moving away from your parents’ dreams for you, and finding your own. It requires courage to say “No” to the plan they’ve made for your life, but as BCEagle says, you simply can’t spend your life doing something you dislike just to please them. </p>
<p>I think you need to understand that you can’t avoid disappointing them. They will never be excited and happy that you don’t want to follow their plan, so don’t expect that. But if you handle it right, they may at least come to accept your right to make your own decisions about your future. It will probably take a while, and it won’t be easy, but it’s part of becoming an adult. </p>
<p>What do you want to study? Have you talked to them about it in a calm, mature way?</p>
<p>There are a ton of fields you could pursue to help you and your family be financially stable. Medicine is a VERY TOUGH field, even if you love it. If you don’t love it, it makes it that much more difficult and even less likely that you will be accepted into it. Medical schools don’t want people who just want financial stability and taking on a huge loan to go to medical school doesn’t really help you become more financially stable either.</p>
<p>Having accompanied several senior citizens to MANY appointments I can tell you that it is difficult for even the most dedicated practitioner to remain attentive and compassionate. And if you don’t enter the field with a deep desire to help others, I don’t think you are going to develop it as you practice.</p>
<p>I can also tell you with certainty, that patients feel the difference. And if they suspect that you don’t really care about them, or if you are patronizing or dismissive and something goes wrong, believe me you will incur their wrath. If, on the other hand, you have established a rapport with your patient, they will trust your intentions and even when there is a poor outcome, they will be far more accepting.</p>
<p>From previous posts your interests seem to lie in engineering. That’s an extremely good field with high earning potential depending on what you’re doing. Are your parents opposed to engineering?</p>
<p>I think it would be pretty miserable to be a doctor if you don’t really love the job. Also, doctors often end up with a lot of college debt because they have to go through med school.</p>
<p>Being a doctor isn’t the only way to earn a lot of money. In fact, being a doctor over the next 40-50 years may not be a good way to earn a lot of money at all. Medical incomes are getting squeezed significantly, especially for specialties that are no longer in favor.</p>
<p>There are lots of better ways to get rich. When you read CC, you see kid after kid who has discovered he or she has a “passion for finance” and aspires to getting a job with a “bulge-bracket investment bank” or a top hedge fund. And others who are studying computer science (or close cousins) and want to work at Google or Facebook. By and large, THAT is where people who prize money most of all are heading these days, not medicine. And in those fields, feeling indifferent about your fellow human beings is an ADVANTAGE, not a professional flaw.</p>
<p>If what you want to do is earn a lot of money, go into a field you like where people earn a lot of money, not a field you don’t like where only a small percent get truly rich.</p>
<p>"… don’t do it if you don’t love it."</p>
<p>Why don’t you just marry a rich person instead? How exactly is 40 years in a loveless marriage different from 40 years in a job you don’t love?</p>
<p>NewHope33 seriously I had that in mind!but where can I find somebody rich to marry and make her cheat on me so can get their money!my true passion is engineering and i am good at it but you need to do 20 year of career to make 100.000 when you make more than 1 million as a surgeon!the real problem is how to explain them that I want to do my own thing!i fell like they made so much sacrifice for me!and that being a doctor is the only way I can pay back!being in an imigrant family isn’t as simple as being in a American family you can’t say no to your parent!</p>
<p>You will have to say no to them at some point.</p>
<p>Trust me, I know and I did the put my foot down thing. It was that or remain single for the rest of my life.</p>
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<p>Sorry, you are DELUSIONAL. Few surgeons make a million dollars a year. Malpractice insurance alone is a killer. </p>
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<p>Sure you can, once you hit the age of 21 / are no longer dependent on them. Why can’t you?</p>
<p>Who exactly is applying to school - you or your parents?<br>
Who will be taking all the classes - you or your parents?
Who will be taking on significant loans for medical school?</p>
<p>If you don’t want to be a doctor, why are you following their wishes? Do they want you to be a doctor because of the money, or because they want a doctor in the family? If it’s the former, consider that many doctors don’t make that much money. Maybe if you were going to be a high-priced plastic surgeon to the stars it would be lucrative, otherwise, there’s no guarantees. If it’s the latter, perhaps they should be reminded that it’s bad policy to treat your own family, because you’re too emotionally involved, and are far more likely to misdiagnose.</p>
<p>You should follow your passion. They may have made acrifices for you, but that is what parents do. It does not entitle them to decide what you will do with your life. If you follow their dream, you will end up resenting them, and they will end up unhappy. Med Schools accept students from a broad range of majors, as long as their grades are good, and they take the appropriate prerequisites. If you want to leave that door open, take those as your electives. You might find you are already taking most of them for your chosen degree anyway.</p>
<p>I can’t imagine being the age I am now and having spent close to forty years doing something day in and day out (and if you are a doc…there are those working weekends and late evenings). My doc friends are seriously wondering what happened to all their thoughts of weekend getaway homes that didn’t happen or never get visited and all the trappings of what they “thought” was important back at age 20. not to even mention how rocky their marriages have been. I don’t know any surgeons making a million dollars…maybe CEOs of the hospitals they work for (who may or may not even be MDs). Docs make a good living for sure, but many people make a good living in many other fields. The one MD I know who has a fairly ‘normal’ life outside of work and makes a decent living is a psychiatrist but oh my gosh if you don’t want to heal people you sure don’t want to be a psychiatrist. </p>
<p>If someone were holding the proverbial gun to my head about medicine I’d pick radiology or anesthesiology :-)</p>
<p>If I say no to them!they will probably never talk to me again, they will not feed me anymore and yes they will exclude me from their family!i swear I am not kidding! They are really nice parent but in my family kid execute what their parent say as if they were in military!for instance my cousin wanted to major in accounting but is majoring in engineering at MIT because his parents said so!my parent will fell like they Failed to educate me well, they will say if my cousin did it why can’t do it!the real problem is how to approach them without ending up in a foster care!</p>