<p>Sometimes when I meet new people you start to judge them you know, some come across as self-reserved, kept, and seem arrogant, while others are enthusiastic, happy, and glad to meet you when you first speak. Obviously who wouldn’t want the latter as the best way to come across, I have that trait, but I’m thinking I should consciously adopt the former. Does that make you more impressive in the sense that people will respect you more and give you more leverage? Obviously you know what i’m talking about, some people are down-to-earth, and chill, while others are stuck-up. Maybe that stuck-upness factor might be good for you after all, but what I want to know is if it will make you better at work in the sense that people will respect you more, just as long as you are respectful, but reserved and try to show to your co-workers that you are a serious person and aren’t so bouncy and happy. Of course, these morons are probably very enthusiastic and happy, but just put on a show and mask when they first meet you. Make sense?</p>
<p>This doesn’t make much sense.</p>
<p>Being poised and reserved is one thing, but arrogance almost always bothers people and it really isn’t very respectful at all.</p>
<p>Well i just spoke to an arrogant lady, not like rude arrogant but like she’s reserved and demands respect, although she was really boring so that comes with arrogance, you can tell when you talk to them, i thought its good to have that personality, as people won’t screw you over because you mean business. So I think poised and reserved was what I meant, but with a tad slight hint of arrogance thrown in there, but none that would make you think that it is overtly rude and comes off as “arrogant,” in the narrowest sense of that word.</p>
<p>Define arrogance. To me, it’s an overblown sense of greatness or self-importance, which I don’t find attractive whatsoever. However, I’d say that some pride is a good thing.</p>
<p>There’s a difference between someone who commands respect and an arrogant d-bag.</p>
<p>Isn’t arrogance an intrusive bossiness? Arrogant + Reserved is bending my head.</p>
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<p>No.</p>
<p>There are two major ways to lead: Dictator or Encourager. You can either tell people what to do (arrogant), or encourage people to do what you want them to do (glad to meet you).</p>
<p>People will do what you tell them because of your position and the respect it commands. However, to get people to go the extra mile, they have to like you and want to follow you. It also helps people to buy-in to your vision if they like you.</p>