Is it easy to become socially involved in college?

I go to a public high school that’s decent but not very academically competitive. People here don’t care so much about academics, and life here is centered on football games, cute homecoming proposals, wearing makeup, having school spirit, etc. Not only do I have different goals academically, but I also have different values, priorities, and overall mindset than other people at my school, so I don’t have any close friends here. Most of my closer friends are people from other schools that I’ve met through ECs, or people from the wonderful middle school I went to.

As a result, my daily school life is nice and there’s nothing extremely bad about it, but I’m no longer extremely socially involved in a friend group the way I was in middle school. For example, I’m not involved in drama or having a “thing” with a guy, nor do I chat/fb message people from my hs a lot afterschool. I don’t really go to people’s house to hang out regularly or go on shopping sprees with school friends. I don’t want to this be my permanent social life status, and I always tell myself to wait until college where I will meet more like-minded people.

However, I’m starting to get scared that I’m forgetting what it’s like to have a normal, active social life with genuine close friends. I’m afraid that when I go to college I will somehow end up like this again, with no real close friends or active social life. Has anyone gone through this or are in a similar situation? Do you think being socially inactive for so long will make me socially inept for college?

In college, if you pick the right college for you, there will be very many more people like you.
So if you are not into football, don’t go to a Penn State. Maybe a smaller LAC is for you.

As a parent, I would advise you to exercise your social muscles…try to find some more friends.
Is there somebody in your class you could “call about a homework problem”? (I know, OMG, calling)
Can you join a service club where you can meet people?
I think there are more kids out their like you than you know…you just have to find them.

Yup… ;(

Anyway, Bopper has some good suggestions above! As I have discovered, you have to work at having friends in college…and there’s no time like the present to practice that.

I agree with both @bodangles and @bopper . While you’re trying to survive in college it is best to gain friends and keep friends along the way. Sure you’ll encounter some people who’re not in the same page as you are but that’s life or should I say that’s college. But I’m sure you’ll definitely find that group of people who you’ll actually be accustomed to. Like they said, you just have to find them.