<p>My son said the same thing about his school. It started when he visited the school for an overnight and his host told him all the cute girls were taken. He started school in August and had a girlfriend by November. It turns out that some girls do break up with with their boyfriends back home. My son met his girlfriend in his biology class so don’t give up. Also, this was his first girlfriend. In high school, he only had 25 girls in his graduating class.</p>
<p>Peter, yes you do have to leave your dorm or apartment, but what I’m saying is that you should be doing that anyway and not for the expressed purpose of finding a girlfriend. If you live an active life and put yourself out there stuff will happen.</p>
<p>Nightclubs aren’t really my thing, but I think you have it a little backwards. It isn’t that hard to get a girl to go home with you (compared to any other place that you’re going to be talking to a girl for 30 minutes then asking her to sleep with you) but it is hard to form anything lasting out of it. Yes, it is probably easier for most guys, including myself, to meet a girl somewhere else, go on a couple dates, etc., but I don’t think you’re more likely to get a girl to go home with you the day you meet them anywhere else, except maybe houseparties.</p>
<p>I wonder if the girls most likely to engage in casual conversation in class are the ones who are more relaxed simply BECAUSE they are already involved with someone else and there’s no pressure for them to ‘make a good impression’ with anyone so they are more themselves. Just a theory. But perhaps you need to look around and see if any of the girls who are a little more nervous are quietly checking you out but perhaps are uncertain about making the first move. Go talk to THOSE girls.</p>
<p>Also…I cannot recommend enough the benefit you might get from reading some relationship books. I spent the first half of my ‘dating’ life being completely clueless about what really made a ‘good’ relationship vs. a ‘bad’ one. Took some horrible relationships, a bad marriage, and a divorce before I sat down and educated myself on relationships. Too many people feel like love should just ‘come naturally’, but ignore the fact that if we make wise choices from the moment we meet someone (and don’t just depend on ‘chemistry’) then we’re more likely to find someone with whom the ‘chemistry’ is good AND the basic structure of the relationship is good too, so the chemistry has a chance of really taking off.</p>
<p>Personally, I would rather be alone than with the wrong person. I educated myself, did things differently than most people do, and ended up married to someone who is everything I could wish for…but I also turned a lot of dates down in the meantime and was careful NOT to drift into a relationship just because it was easy or convenient.</p>
<p>OP,</p>
<p>I’m very familiar with UW-Madison and I can tell you without hesitation that there are plenty of single women. Get established and make friends, develop a social network, and this problem will work itself out.</p>
<p>I went (may go back) to UW-Madison, single, and looking for a long term serious relationship.</p>
<p>We are out there. There are so many people in the world; don’t limit yourself to college dating.</p>
<p>it is just you</p>
<p>relax, sir. just relax.</p>
<p>It’s just you. I’ve never had a problem finding a g/f. Then again, you seem to be very picky. I pretty much would date any girl that gives me some signals that they like me, fit body, nice butt, cute face. Don’t care much about anything else.</p>