<p>Hi,</p>
<p>Since it’s mother’s day…I was just wondering if it’s possible for a person’s mom to hate her child/children so much to the point that, say…if they passed away right this moment they wouldn’t even feel any remorse/sorrow/shed a single tear?</p>
<p>haha, i know this is a bit odd posting this…but i was bored…lol.</p>
<p>Thankfully, I think there are relatively few women who feel that way, which is why stories like the Susan Smith incident are so disturbing. I seriously doubt there are any “CC moms” who hate their children. We are probably all pretty emotionally invested in our kids, which is why angst and fierce love drove us to this site in the first place:).</p>
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<p>I think this scenario rarely happens. Even if mothers hate everything their child has ever done, there was once a moment that they did love the cild and that is what will be reflected upon when something hapens to the child. You can hate the sin and still love the sinner.</p>
<p>^^^^And vice versa. Children will often still express love for a parent who is highly undeserving. During the murder trial of her mother, Diane Downs, her surviving daughter described to a horrified courtroom how her mother shot her and her siblings one evening during an evening car ride (so that she could pursue a relationship with a man who had also said he didn’t want any children). She actually acted it out for the jury. When she was finished, the prosecutor asked the child if she loved her mother. The child teared up, nodded her head, and said “yes.”</p>
<p>Yes, it’s possible.</p>
<p>Work in social services for a while. You’ll see it.</p>
<p>OP, I’m just curious – is there anything personal about this post? Are you afraid that your mother hates you?</p>
<p>I would think a mother would have to have something seriously wrong with her to hate her children. I can’t imagine not loving my kids.</p>
<p>The times I am the most furious at my kids are when they do things to endanger themselves. So I can certainly hate their behavior but only because I love them so ferociously. I agree with mom2collegekids.</p>
<p>Hanna, completely agree with your post. Social services is where you see most of the ugliness we don’t usually see and dysfunctional humans are at the top of the list.</p>
<p>Have you seen the Mom Song?</p>
<p>[YouTube</a> - The Mom Song with lyrics](<a href=“http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CXgoJ0f5EsQ]YouTube”>http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=CXgoJ0f5EsQ)</p>
<p>I think it is normal for your kids to make you want them to leave the nest and go out on their own. I love my sons, but when my older one comes home from college, he stays out late, stays up late and is messy. Even though he will be 21 next month, I am stilll a worry wart, so I can’t sleep until he is home. So, I do not get any sleep. On the bright side, he does my errands for me and loves to cook. </p>
<p>He always has drama in his life too.</p>
<p>My mother hates all six of her children, that are the children of my father. The other 2 are blessed by god. She never killed any of us, but she pushed the youngest to suicide. I am 50 years old and can never remember her telling any of us that she loved us, Never. She mentally abused us with her hatred. One of her 2 older daughters says she has the right to cut us out of her will because of my father. How sick is that? The money means nothing to me, its just the fact that she would do that to us, Hurts.</p>
<p>Yes it is possible. I grew up with someone who’s mother professed that she loved her daughter, but threw her under the proverbial bus when she could. She (the mother) is a grandmother and great grandmother. Hasn’t seen the grandson since he was born…didn’t go to the wedding…didn’t acknowledge her great grandchild. Missed the wedding…something about a laser hair removal appointment.</p>
<p>Evidence of the reverse is much more common. </p>
<p>On the news the otter day a stroller slipped sway from a mom, tumbled down a hill and into some water. </p>
<p>The mom ran down the hill, broke her leg… and kept running! </p>
<p>Baby’s dad stood at the top of the hill.</p>
<p>I can’t say I’ve ever encountered a mother who hates their children , but I have met more than my share of mothers who should not have had children</p>
<p>Hating one’s own child can be the result of resentment. Resentment that happens when the child interferes with the mother’s own (perceived) needs being met. Likely the mother did not have a good relationship/attachment with her own mother.
It is very sad. Kids whose mothers or fathers are unable to love them usually blame themselves.
Yes, I work in social services.</p>
<p>In the court system and courtrooms and even the education system, unfortunately, you see a lot of very heart-rending cases of parent(s)/families who are dysfunctional and the profound and far-reaching results that can happen. There is a high burnout rate of folks who try to serve/work with these people.</p>
<p>My step-mom seems to hate me, though I shan’t touch specifics as a result of my potentially divulging username.</p>
<p>I’m not sure not being “loved” is the same as “hate”. I’m not sure there is even a universal definition of what either love or hate means. I work with a lot of kids in some pretty bad situations, but I don’t think even the most neglectful, abusive moms usually actually “hate” their kids.</p>
<p>Not sure if my mother hates my older sister, but she doesn’t like her at all. She spent most of her teen and young adult years trying to get my parents put in jail on false abuse charges, and there were several years where my mom was afraid to let my younger sister and I leave the house because she had threatened to kidnap the youngest and murder me, and there was evidence that she had planned how she would do it. Nowadays she has children of her own and is an awful, awful, awful mother-- her children live in absolute horrifying filth and don’t have proper beds to sleep in and my sister pours her money into ECs and vacations instead of heat or food and she pulled the kids out of school to homeschool to get her off the hook for truancy and then didn’t teach them because it was “too hard.” Not really sure how to define how my mom feels about her, but she gets judged a lot for not seeming like the most loving mother to her these days and I can’t say that I blame her.</p>
<p>^ Emaheevul07-----That is so sad. It must have been very difficult growing up with your sister wrecking havoc on your family.</p>