<p>Chill, girl. 
If you let loose of all the uptightness that HS relationships bring, stuff 'll come to you.</p>
<p>Iāll follow my own advice soon.</p>
<p>Well, personally I have rejected the guys that have asked me out. And I suppose Iām smart, considering my grades/accomplishments compared to the other students. I donāt mean to sound full of myself. Just saying.
I just donāt agree with relationships at this age and Iām very picky. Plus I find the guys I meet immature. So there. I enjoy my freedom.
Moreover, I have no interest in any guys right now whatsoever.</p>
<p>I think it is possible to be smart and taken. :] I went to a new high school and it seems like the valdevictorian knows how to manage her time wisely and to have fun. It just depends if the person who is smart is open and willing to have fun versus the one who is smart and is not open to anyone. 
Psycho_Paroxysm, you remind me so much of myself when I was 15. X]</p>
<p>It all depends on whether if youāre willing to go out and meet new people. Putting yourself out there, even when faced with a possible rejection, is how to make friends.</p>
<p>Iām not valedictorian, but Iām kinda close (3rd). Iāve had a boyfriend for almost 2 years. Heās not a genius, but heās not stupid either (in some honors classes, probably in the top 50 in our class). I think one of the main reasons that our relationship works is b/c he never feels inferior- Iām not the kind of girl who shoves grades and intelligence in peopleās faces. Most of my friends (guys and girls) arenāt in any of my AP classes, either.</p>
<p>I can see why most valedictorians/salutatorians/etc. donāt want boyfriends, though. Having a relationship on top of tons of homework, cheer practice, clubs, and work can be extremely draining. Sometimes, Iāll leave for school at 6:30 and I wonāt get back until 10 at night. When I get home, I just want to pass out in my bed, but I almost always call my bf and chat with him for awhile, instead. He definitely gets irritated when he feels like I ādonāt have enough time for him,ā weāve almost broken up a few times because of this. </p>
<p>Like most of you, Iāve got so much going on that it would really make my life easier if I just cut some stuff out b/c I <em>donāt have time for it.</em> Itās all about priorities, though. Not to get sappy, but if you find something that means something to you, you have to stick with it. Is having a boyfriend worth getting less than 5 hours of sleep on a regular basis? For me it is, but it may not be for you. Donāt stress about getting/keeping a relationship if you donāt want one- you can still have a ton of fun if youāre single.</p>
<p>whew, that was long :)</p>
<p>My school doesnāt rank, but I wouldnāt be valedictorian if they did. I had a 5.0 W (took 6 APs by the end of junior year) after last year, but I have a stubborn B in math this year, so that would drop a little if I were to recalculate. Basically, Iām not a total dip****, but Iām also not the smartest kid ever. But yeah, I have a job (20 hrs a week), I was a track captain last year, and Iām a competitive gymnast, plus a million other clubs.</p>
<p>And yes, I have a boyfriend. We donāt get to spend a crazy amount of time together (heās in marching band at his university, and that scheduel conflicts with mine sometimes), but we find time for each other.</p>
<p>Am I intimidating? I have no idea. I guess, though, this being my third boyfriend ever, might indicate that a lot of times the smart kids donāt date? Also, my school is full of crazy smart kids, so a couple that both originally went there might not be a great representation.</p>
<p>Wellā¦ now that I think about it, for me the issue isnāt so much a lack of time or energyāIām a big believer in not driving myself over the edge with a packed schedule and all that, and I donāt really want anything besides my normal level of anxiety-related insomnia to keep me from getting a healthy nightās sleep. The thing is, I love my friends-- some of them I absolutely adore (like guy #2 in my post aboveādonāt know what Iād do without the kid) --but my guy friends are the only guys I can think of whom Iād consider dating ((Iād have to like the guy and enjoy his company to be in a romantic relationship with himāand if I like him and enjoy his company, then Iām probably friends with him. Eh. Makes sense to me.)) and the last thing in the world I want is to lose their friendship. I mean, if we continued being as considerate and kind to each other as we are now, then I wouldnāt expect any big heart-renting issueā¦ but itād be hard to break up with a guy and expect to have him as the same friend he was before the romantic relationship began. And itād be hard to not end the romantic relationship with him if Iām leaving for Europe for a gap year after graduation and heās not graduating yet and there are a lot of nice girls in his class, if you know what I meanā¦ God, itād be the most awful thing to have him do anything that would make me lose my trust in him. Makes me sad just thinking about it, and itās a only hypothetical boyfriend anyway. :(</p>
<p>My case is, I think, different from most peopleās, and Iām certainly less than qualified to give advice on the subject of valedictorian romance. Obviously. :p</p>
<p>[edit: The majority of my friends are in the class of 2008, by the way.]</p>
<p>Last year we had some really brght girls and I donāt know if any of them had a long/semi-long relationship, but they were all really nice and involved. </p>
<p>This year Iām in the running for Valedictorian as long as I keep up the straight Aās, my unweighted GPA is higher than other peoplesā though (because i took a lot of APās my junior year). Iām involved in a lot of clubs, my church, and will have had 15ish APās by the end of the year. But, Iāve also had a few b/fās. One for a year, a couple in between, and I am currently in a relationship that has just passed the 10 month mark =).</p>
<p>That being said, most people are surprised I can handle everything, especially a relationship, but I think it really depends on the person. I jsut have good time management ;-). The smart guys are constantly on ābadā terms with me, they make fun of me and such a lot, but itāll be alright. </p>
<p>It is true though, most people donāt think that girls are as smart as they are, whether they realize it or not. Iāve found teachers are especially bad about this.</p>
<p>What? seriously i find smart girls very attractive. If theyāre ranked higher than me, im more turned on. the problem is that no girl at my school is really all that smart. I complicate the fact that i donāt hang around āsmart peopleā because i like having fun and screwing around. but seriously any guy who doesnāt like a girl b/c they are smarter is ā ā ā ā ā ā ā ā .</p>
<p>i get called a feminist for wanting to excel and being studious. itās rather obnoxious.
but even still iāve had a few boyfriends (who werenāt nerds as well) the past 4 years.</p>
<p>Hello,every one, I come from Chinese,My English is bad,so donāt make fun of me,think you,I hope to find a friend in here</p>
<p>welcome Chinese to CC.
Yeah, I think most people are intimidated by smart people. Plus, some of the smart people are not interested in relationships anyway. They are busying thinking about classes, homeworks, or projects. Those people just donāt want to waste their time dating.</p>
<p>LOL everyone whoās in the top 10% of my class is a girl except for like 5 guysā¦the girls either have a BF or get drunk and screw around at parties. Come to think of it, only a few of them have bfs, and theyāre all really pretty and athletic. Hmmā¦</p>
<p>Everyone thinks my good friend the valedictorian is really hot, but sheās never been on a date or had a bf. At the moment sheās in a messy friends-with-benefits relationship with another one of our good friends, whoās like #5 in our class. Theyāre both bored, lonely and hormonal, I guess. Anyway, I think she intimidates men. Even when she walks she walks with power, yknow what I mean? Like full steam ahead. She always jokes(?) around that she wants to rule the world. </p>
<p>As for me, Iām #7 in my class, Iāve been told that Iām very attractive, but guys generally donāt come near me - I have to approach them. And Iām pretty tired of it. And the kind of guys who like me are the ones I want to be just friends with, and Iām tired of that too. Iāve heard Iām hard to read and somewhat intimidating. Iāve never been on a date or had a bf. So yeah, Iām pretty sick of high school.</p>
<p>Considering that high school is suited more to girls than guys, most of the valedictorians will be girls.</p>
<p>Our valedictorian is very good-looking and she really hasnāt been without a boyfriend.</p>
<p>Well, Iām not valectorian but Iām like salutarian. Iām asian and I look younger than my actual age. I donāt consider myself hot or gorgeous but I think alot of guys think Iām cute or something. And the guys who have asked me out before are not top students, ones whom I would not want to date. But then the top student guys never seem to be interested in me that way. Why is that? How can a smart girl attract stupid guys and be rejected by smart guys? And why does alot of caucasian guys just seem to like asians?</p>
<p>heh, seeing this thread makes me think.</p>
<p>Iām known as one of the smartest kids in the high school (taught my self japanese at 11 or so), but Iām also one of the most popular. Never really thought about how, I mean I do ridiculously nerdy stuff that I seem to get away with that other people get looked down upon (video games, studying for PSATs/Sats, etc). I never really thought about going for girls that are intellectual in all of my AP classes, but thats generally because they arenāt the most attractive.</p>
<p>But besides being smart, I have to say that Iām also a huge partier. Iām known as the kid thats, ācrazy smart but smokes alot of potā. People wonder how I donāt study, didnt use to do homework, etc, and still manage a 3.9 GPA (prolly closer to 4.4 now didnāt really care to check), but I think thats the key in just enjoying being smart and having fun in high school. I donāt push myself, I let myself let loose and have fun. Generally the girls that are 4.0ish students donāt really like to party, arenāt too experienced, and no offense ladies not to be vulgar, but think their pussies are made of diamon and must be treated as such. I never really bother with those girls, so when they talk to me I kind of blow them off. I prefer the girls that are preetty smart but still have fun and party and donāt take themselves to seriously and wanna enjoy the moment. alot of the times these are girls that have a few honors classes, like 3.3-3.6 GPAs, and know how to party but know how to get serious when its needed (though being serious isnāt needed too often :p). Alot of guys in high school arenāt looking to get married, sometimes having fun is just whatās on our mind, and alot of girls that I know or been with will admit that as well.</p>
<p>TBH, sometimes smart attractive girls also shut themselves down so to speak. Not showing their personality, not wanting to really have fun and smile, and are sort of closed. Thereās only really been a few times Iāve actually thought about making a girl my actual girlfriend, but one I remember was a girl who was really smart but also had fun and didnāt even party like I did, but she was attractive cuz she was smart and fun. So I mean if you want my advice, if you are trying to get in a relationship (or just get laid), you donāt have to party and all like I do, but you should loosen up some and at least laugh and interact with people, its good for the soul.</p>
<p>P.s. - Keep in mind Iām probably not normal seeing as how I get 2000s stoned on practice tests >_></p>
<p>haha i was going to post something about thisā¦but from all the post i have readā¦ there is really no answer to this because there are girls who are smart with a boyfriend and there are girls who are smart with no boyfriendā¦ i guess it all depends on the situationā¦</p>
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<p>And for the soulless, undead demons? ;)</p>
<p>Yes it is possible. I was in a relationship all of last year with a very smart girl high gpa, and very, very high ACT. As for myself people see me as smarter than I actually am I only have a 3.7, and 31 ACT and am not in the top 10% you make the call whether or not I fit the description. For an āintelligentā person to have a relationship that lasts, it usually has to be with someone else fairly intelligent. Personally, I donāt judge intelligence by numbers and say I wonāt date anyone who has a gpa below 3.5, rather more or less how they act, ie no ditsy blonds need apply.</p>
<p>Hmm. Strange question. Iām in the running to be a valedictorian at my school, but am strictly asexual (non-romantic variant) and have no desire to get a boyfriend. After losing 40 pounds over the summer, Iāve been getting a bit of unwanted attention.</p>
<p>As a result, Iāve turned down three guys in fairly rapid sucession this year (plus one freshman year), earning me a reputation as an āIce Queenāā¦</p>
<p>Iām perfectly happy with that! 
Theyāve let me alone since.</p>