Is it possible to have fun in a fraternity/sorority if you refuse to drink under 21?

<p>just wondering. Anybody with personal experiences with a fraternity/sorority</p>

<p>I have an alternative question:</p>

<p>If you don't drink and don't want to drink until you are 21(I don't drink at 22) then why would you want to join a fraternity/sorority which wouldn't accept a member that doesn't drink?</p>

<p>Some fraternities/sororities would accept a member that doesn't drink and would not make a big deal out of it. I know a guy in a Fraternity right now that doesn't drink.</p>

<p>Others would not(It might be an unwritten rule of joining the fraternity/sorority that you are required to go to the parties and drink).</p>

<p>If you don't want to drink, then don't join the fraternity/sorority that requires its members to drink.</p>

<p>Why don't you contact the President/Leader of the fraternity and ask them directly?</p>

<p>^^ I think a problem with your theory is that I really doubt they are totally honest about their partying practices during rush, but I could be wrong.</p>

<p>I would say it is possible, but highly unlikely. If you're biggest problem with drinking is that its against the law if you're not 21, then you're just going to get bummed out seeing underage people drink day-in and day-out with no consequences while you attempt to hold yourself to a higher standard.</p>

<p>Fraternities and sororities have no respect for the drinking age (nor should they, in my opinion), so I don't think that they would be a great place for someone who chooses to strictly adhere to that law.</p>

<p>Of course you can have fun without drinking! My now-husband did not drink until he turned 21. He did get a little more attention, but he would crack a joke or two and no problem. Sororities do not allow alcohol in their houses.
Most all fraternity and sorority social events have to adhere to strict rules, with extra security, door keepers etc.
Anybody who believes differently has not been to a fraternity or sorority party in several years.</p>

<p>We currently have 2 brothers and 1 pledge who don't drink, and 1 of those might have more fun at mixers than anyone else in the brotherhood. As long as you don't hate drunk people and can have fun without drinking you should be fine. There's so much more to greek life then partying it wouldn't be a big deal for you to just not go to social functions.</p>

<p>Along with social functions, we do philanthropies weekly, athletics, brotherhood events, and we have other leaders high up in SGA and other VT positions.</p>

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Sororities do not allow alcohol in their houses.

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HAHAHAHAHAHA that's total BS. one of my friends pledged a sorority, and recently went to a party at the house, and spent the rest of the night puking her guts out because she drank so much. Sororities SAY they don't allow alcohol in their houses but it's not true.</p>

<p>At my campus, there are several fraternities that are dry.</p>

<p>I dont get the whole greek system personally. even if the hazing isnt as bad as it used to be you're still basically paying for friendship.</p>

<p>my roommate is pledging a fraternity and this week is hell week for him. (He won't be in his room all week, he's moving somewhere for a week). He told me not to post anything on facebook about him on facebook so he doesn't get in trouble.</p>

<p>Sounds like hazing is still around even though the colleges make such a big deal about being against it</p>

<p>Frats will always haze. That's just the way they work. I don't see too much of a problem with it; most people know that they're going to have to go through something like that when they decide to join up.</p>

<p>Of course you can have fun in a fraternity if you refuse to drink under twenty-one. As an example, every Spring at Georgia Tech, all the Greek organizations practice for the tug-of-war competition. I don't think many people would excel in that event under the influence.</p>

<p>As far as personal experience, one of my freshman year hallmates pledged a fraternity and refused to drink for the first semester. Eventually, though, he relented and started drinking. I think the environment really isn't conducive to being a teetotaler, but as AmyAlumna's post shows, there are always exceptions.</p>

<p>I used to be Puritanically against drinking, but I've abandoned that position as I've embraced my elitism. The way I see it, if you're going to drink, then drink the good stuff and don't add crap so you can't even taste the alcohol.</p>

<p>Your not paying for friendship in frats usually because that implies that anyone with money can join it which is not true, they pick guys that would suit their frat not any random person willing to pay, and a frat would never sustain it's self unless everyone chips in to pay for events/house bills/food/beer. Its basically the same as renting a house with your friends but you have a group name and organized events, so technically it's not "buying friendship", people who say that are usually the ones who did not receive offers from their desired frat/sorority. Lastly, frats are fun for all their events and what not but the main point is for a good group of people to party with so if that kind of thing doesn't really interest you, maybe just hang out with friend outside of a frat with the same interests.</p>

<p>Drinking is not a good option for students, if you are below 21 then forget it</p>

<p>In my sorority, plenty of girls drank but a number of them did not and still had a great time enjoying activities A lot of the activities dont involve alcohol at all One smart sister LOVED the parties but did not care for alcohol. She would sip on a club soda on ice with a twist of lime. It looked like a mixed drink so she never had to turn down offers for alcohol.</p>

<p>A majority of the bonding in Greek life happens from getting hazed together, and getting drunk together.</p>

<p>Now if you don't like to drink, and don't like to get hazed then chances are you won't fit in. This isn't to say that you won't be able to make friends or have fun, but you are going to be at a disadvantage unless you have a strong personality to make up for it.</p>

<p>Not all fraternities/sororities haze or require you to drink (at my university, hazing is strictly against university policies and anyone who participates in it can be placed on probation or expelled if they're caught)--just find ones that don't do them. I've heard professional frats/sororities don't involve hazing and don't make their members drink, since they have to keep up their professional-like reputation.</p>

<p>yeah, do you mean social fraternities/sororities? i could see non drinking being an issue there, particularly in the frats, but if it's a service, professional, major, pre-*, or whatever society, i don't think you'll run into any problems.
also sopranokitty i don't know how truthful your claim is, but there's only ONE social fraternity at UCD that says they don't haze (Sigma Nu) and i'm fairly sure the rest of them do. or at least aepi, theta chi, chi phi, and delta sig do.</p>

<p>@ Hella: I just looked at the campus policies and it mentioned hazing strictly being against policy. </p>

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<p>And I never said all social fraternities at UCD haze, I said "not all fratenities/sororities require you to haze--just find ones that don't do them", meaning I'm not talking about only social frats/sororities.</p>

<p>You will rarely find a university that condones hazing. If the school has a Greek system, they have a no-hazing policy. However, most (social at least) Greek organizations typically do at least a little, especially frats. It's pretty sad but it is deeply, deeply ingrained in the culture. They also manage to keep it extremely quiet as well, so problems are rarely reported unless someone dies or something. It makes it seem less common, but it is VERY, VERY common, especially at bigger schools with competitive Greek systems.</p>

<p>I used to be in a sorority that once (a few years ago) was almost kicked off campus for hazing - they turned it down a lot, and you could say they "didn't haze," but there were definitely elements of the pledge process that were questionable. If you asked the actives if they hazed us, they would probably say no, and they wouldn't think they were lying. The line can be blurry sometimes, even if it seems clear-cut if you aren't part of the system.</p>

<p>I don't know if we're allowed to post links on here, but look at hazedandconfused.com. With the number of stories on there (sure, some are fake of course, but they can't all be) you can see how widespread hazing really is.</p>