<p>Of course you can have fun without drinking! My now-husband did not drink until he turned 21. He did get a little more attention, but he would crack a joke or two and no problem. Sororities do not allow alcohol in their houses.
Most all fraternity and sorority social events have to adhere to strict rules, with extra security, door keepers etc.
Anybody who believes differently has not been to a fraternity or sorority party in several years.</p>