<p>the way you PERCEIVE someone, that is the exact same way they perceive you back?</p>
<p>what i mean is, if you see someone for the very first time (like a fellow student in a classroom, etc) you have this “initial judgment/immediate perception” of him on what kind of a person he’s like and how you should “act” around him.</p>
<p>does he, in turn, have the same exact concept/first judgment of you?</p>
<p>so basically i’m saying this: is it true that however you FEEL you should ACT around a certain person, that person FEELS he should ACT the same way you feel around him too?</p>
<p>hmm i’m not really sure… i don’t think so…
actually i dont really get what you are saying…
Like, if a hot guy saw an ugly girl, he’d be like ‘wow she’s ugly’. The girl wouldn’t say, ‘wow he’s ugly’ also… she’d say ‘wow he’s hot’.</p>
<p>In the start of the year, we had a new girl in our class and she followed me around heaps - asking questions about my acadamics, soccer, my clubs, who I’m friends with, etc… - and hanging around with me and my friends (without invitation!) and I kinda got tired of her. But I guess she wasn’t tired of me because she kept on tagging along. So in the end, I got sick of her. But she didn’t get sick of me… (opposite perceivement? (if that even a word…?))</p>
<p>I’m not exactly sure what you were getting at, but I definitely act differently with different people. It’s probably a superficial thing or something. If I’m with my “smart” friends, I’ll act a certain way. When I’m with my “regular” buddies, I act another way.</p>
<p>What I think you might be refering to is your actions not first impressions. First impressions are hard to change but what you think of someone is completely different than what they may think of you. For instance if you meet someone while you’re drunk his/her perception of you will be a non-serious crazy guy. You may be called “Crazy [insert first or last name here]” even though you study a lot and do well in school. If you meet someone studying, they might think of you as boring or smart and the person to come to for answers even if you don’t quite get it.</p>
<p>What people do imitate is your actions. If they are normal, when you’re nice, they will be nice back. Whether they find your actions phony or genuine as a first impression is not always clear but how they respond should be in the nicest way they can be (which depending on mood or personality isn’t always nice).</p>
<p>Then again, what you consider friendly may be considered intrusive by others. I am a big greeter usually with a smile and some people aren’t a fan of others being excited or happy. (“Ummm you just saw me two days ago, why are you so happy?”) They may be turned off by what you consider nice or whatever you were trying to get across.</p>
<p>So in conclusion mood and personality pretty much cover how someone may perceive the same action differently (just as you might like a mere aquaintance saying hi, waving, and smiling, it might weird out someone else who only smiles at close friends) or if you’re sick or angry you might at out toward those who are feeling happy. So just because you perceive something in one way does not cause the exact same feelings in other. It might be a good conclusion that if they act the same way (in a way appropriate to their mood and personality [a shy person will never freak out and hug someone on the sidewalk but an outgoing, playful person may just freak out right back) that they feel the same way you do.</p>
<p>Again I may not be answering your question but I am confused about what you’re asking. Maybe a little clarification. I tried.</p>
<p>thanks, if yer not too sure then how does this work if i paraphrase;</p>
<p>when you see someone for the first time (lets say on a basketball court) - you are automatically going to think ‘this guys a punk’ or ‘hes a big mean dude’ according to how they look thats why you pass this judgment.</p>
<p>in turn, will they also have that same judgment of you the first time they look at you before conversating.</p>