<p>This is the case with me. I already live in a less social dorm than a normal one, so I expected to bond with my roommates instead of really meeting new people, as people told me before I got here at this dorm. But strangely enough, my roommates are rarely here.</p>
<p>My actual roommate, he just literally never is here. I know he lives close by, so I don’t know if he’s working, at home, with people somewhere else, I just have no idea. He has slept here maybe 5 times in 2 months of school and doesn’t even come here during the day. My other 2 roommates aren’t here that much as well. basically, they’re here in the morning/around lunch, and don’t come back until really late, like 11 pm-1 am. </p>
<p>I just wonder if this is normal. I look around to the other suites and see people in their living rooms with suitemates, watching tv, talking, etc. I just feel so alone being in here with no one for the majority of the day and seeing all the other rooms. Oh, not to mention I live with the RA and so he’s always here so it makes me feel worse.</p>
<p>I wouldn’t say it’s normal, but it’s hardly abnormal. A lot of people don’t like spending time in the dorms since they’re not exactly the most comfortable place to chill, if you know what I mean. </p>
<p>I’m not knocking you for it, but dude, it’s aa good thing. You dont get much privacy in college. Would you rather have a roommate who never ** left? **</p>
<p>If your dorm is one of the less social ones, maybe your roommates are never around because they are out doing social things with more social people?</p>
<p>There is no one definitive “normal” for roommate situations. Some roommates are always there bothering you; other roommates find a good balance, and some roommates are never in the room. It just depends on the personality of the people involved. It also may be how comfortable they feel with their other roommates and/or with their other friends.</p>
<p>You’re in school. There’s nothing odd about college students who are only in their room for their morning dress routine and then who return at around 11 pm. If you see other suites with people in them watching television and chatting, why don’t you make friends with some of the other people in your dorm who ARE around more often?</p>
<p>I’m only ever in my room to sleep, almost never for anything else. So, I’m pretty much gone from after I leave in the morning until like 3 or 4am.</p>
<p>It’s not that I’m not ever out, it’s just that whenever I’m in they’re never there. I know it’s not weird that they’re always out. I just thought it seems like normally, people actually get to know their roommates and they’re in at least sometimes.</p>
<p>I only began really thinking about this when I see that other rooms have the roommates here a lot.</p>
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<p>Well I didn’t exactly mean that I SEE them, per se. I meant that I can sometimes see lights on behind drawn curtains, and sometimes if I’m walking by a room with closed curtains I’ll see a flicker of a TV, and I can’t exactly say “Hey I was looking in between the spaces in your closed blinds and saw you guys were watching TV, can I join?”</p>
<p>@October
i asked him that on the first day. i think he said something like he wanted to have the privacy. plus he got a scholarship because he’s on the bowling team. </p>
<p>it was pretty funny because he left a banana on his desk 2-3 weeks ago and it was still there when i got back after thanksgiving, so it was all black and had some mold. i thumbtacked it to the door and every time my roommates came in they said it was nasty. </p>
<p>well, he finally came back today and was like “oh is that my banana?” i said “yeah” he said “ew thats disgusting”. and didnt even throw the ****ing thing away</p>
<p>You might have been too subtle there, simpson. Just fixing the banana to the door might go over the head of someone who thinks it’s okay to leave fruit on his desk for a month.</p>