<p>Did anyone else get really sad having to decline schools that they have friends going to? Cause I cried for like a half an hour. Am I overreacting?</p>
<p>You shouldn’t worry about it. You will be seeing them in many social events ,after all many BS are connected. By happy that you have the liberty to actually decline the schools.</p>
<p>Growing up is always difficult, esp during transitions. Leaving friends from middle school and if you are boarding, your family, will be hard–but you know what? Everyone goes through it–and so will you. Esp with FB and twitter, instantgram and other social media sites, connections are easier than ever to maintain–and even strengthen, believe it or not.</p>
<p>And hey, if you want to do something really retro and very nice-- you can even take the time to handwrite letters-- the extra time handwriting takes gives you the ability to reflect and make considered comments-- and who doesn’t just love getting a letter in the mailbox!</p>
<p>Teenage years are never easy–but–they are very exciting-- as the late Dr Seuss wrote as the title of his last book: “Oh, the Places You’ll Go!”</p>
<p>:)</p>
<p>That was probably the hardest thing, emotionally for me. Out of the 4 schools I got accepted to, only one of them accepted other people from my school. It was hard to decline that school, because I knew that I wouldn’t be seeing my friends as much and I wouldn’t have the security of already knowing people when I started. But look on the bright side, going off somewhere else gives you a chance for a new start, to make new friends. This way you’ll still be able to keep your old friends and make new ones :)</p>
<p>Also remember that (if you are a freshman) your WHOLE class will be new as well. You can all start new together.</p>
<p>No that not a normal response</p>
<p>MissMimi: I think that the whole school selection/application/decision process can be a little overwhelming for many students and parents alike. And while you are going through the stressful/exciting part of the process, you often don’t have time and space to just feel all the feelings that go along with such a major transition. While some may be nonchalant about it, I think it’s a pretty big deal. So now that things have settled down a bit, you have a chance to really think about what all this means… as well as recognize the hard work you did to get there. I think your reaction is just a way to let some of those feelings out. Perfectly normal. In a way, it’s like the feelings you get at the end of a big sports tournament or the end of a theater production you’ve rehearsed for months… some people liken it to ‘postpartum depression’, but I don’t think that’s a great comparison. In any case, you will likely experience many more up and down emotions during the next months. Be kind to yourself! (Can you tell that in my work, I am surrounded by therapists?) :)</p>
<p>I actually don’t want to be with my friends next year. They’ve all plotted and schemed behind my back, excluding me from activities, inventing codes so they can talk freely. 
LOL, I’ll echo this thread’s question-is that normal?</p>
<p>But, to answer the OP’s question: yes, it is normal. You can cry for a while, but in the end, move on! You’ll have a lot of fun at boarding school!</p>
<p>@GoldenRatio I would feel the same about some of my ‘friends’ but the ones who also got into schools were all really nice. One particularly horrible girl said for a while that she was applying to some of the same boarding schools I was, but it turned out it was just another of her stories to try to get more attention.</p>
<p>Thanks to everybody for being so supportive.</p>
<p>Mimi, where did you decide to go?</p>
<p>@UKgirl23: Nice! 
I’m trying to keep up a cheerful facade around my friends until June. Then, I’ll let it fall and shatter, and move on…some acquaintances got into Choate as well; I might try and become friends with them.</p>
<p>Well my current school has a 9th grade option, but I’m also sticking it out on the deerfield WL.</p>
<p>100% normal. Think about all the stress you’ve gone through in this process and the emotional roller-coaster you’ve been on. You’ve got a ton of pent-up emotion, understandably, and it’s got to come out somewhere. You know how sometimes you’ll cry at a song or a movie and not know why? Maybe it’s not so much the fact that you’re turning down your friends’ schools that you’re crying about per se, but rather releasing all the emotion that has been building up this whole time. The realization that your friends will be elsewhere next year finally broke the dam. </p>
<p>These next few months mark the end of many things, but also many beginnings. You will absolutely see your friends. And you’re going to make a ton more. It’s natural to cry about things never quite being the same again. But the good thing is, they’re only going to get better from here.</p>