If families from the top percentiles didn’t actually care about where their kids attended college, you wouldn’t see almost 40% of the kids of the top 0.1% by income attending these colleges, and another 20% attending “Highly Selective” colleges.
If it wasn’t important to wealthy families tha their kids attend an “elite” college, why is it so difficult to get rid of all of the admission policies that benefit Old Money, like athletic, legacy, and donor admission boosts?
Many of the Old Money families seem “down to earth” or “humble” when engaging with people who are not in the top 1% or wealthier, because they don’t feel that people in the lower 99% by income are a threat to their social status or income streams. You would be able to see just how not humble and not down-to-earth they will be if they feel that their perceived status is threatened.
They don’t “flaunt their wealth” in a way that is obvious to you, because they are not trying to impress YOU. Other members of the top 1% by income know how wealthy they are, though. You may not know that your acquaintance owns half of the county, but you can be absolutely certain that their congressman, their state representative, and their mayor knows that fact.
They also don’t think that their wealth or their fame relates to any conversation that they are likely to have with you, or with anybody who is not also within their income level. It’s not something that a person can simply slip into a conversation, if their conversation partner is not very wealthy, without bringing the conversation to a screeching halt.
If you’re talking about home issues, do you want them to say “I don’t worry about that because I have a custodian who takes care of that, and we’re not worried about the costs for repairs”. If you talk about how well your kid is doing at college, do you expect them to say “our kid, who has a $150 million trust fund, is doing pretty well at college too”?
To be honest, Americans have such low standards for the Very Wealthy. People seem to actually be impressed by the fact that a very wealthy person is not mentioning their family wealth and their own income in every conversation. I’m sorry, not starting every conversation with “My Family Owns Half of NYC” is not “being humble”. It’s the most basic conversation etiquette.
Finally, if the top 1% were so “humble” and “down to earth”, they wouldn’t be pushing billions of dollars lobbying (and pressuring) politicians to keep taxes on Capital gains so low, or to eliminate estate taxes on the very wealthy. They wouldn’t be putting so much money and effort in maintaining all of the legal loopholes that allow the wealthiest Americans have lower tax rates than people with median incomes either.
A “normal college experience” does not include attending a “fancy college”. She wanted to cosplay as a person from a “normal” family, and like all cosplay, her notion of “normal” was very much the product of a fanciful imaginary idealized notion of “normal”. A college which has 70% of their students from the top 20% by income does not provide a “normal college experience”. I am pretty certain that nothing about her college years was even close to the experiences of 95% of American kids who attend a four year college.