<p>For you it’s the $40K question. For some it can be a $160K question or a quarter million dollar question. </p>
<p>There is really no one size fits all answer. For some, the very experience of going to one school over the other is worth it to them. Whether it’s a perception or reality, who knows? An 18 year old often does not know for sure; it’s often emotion driving the answer. </p>
<p>There are families who pay a quarter million dollars for their kids to go to a private school with all the bells and whistles. Several of my friends are doing this. Some can easily afford it, so it’s no big deal. Kid picks the school he wants without regard to cost, and parents pay for it. Sometimes some discussion and splitting of the cost is done with the kids taking out loans, parents taking out loans, kids working summer and school year and everyone scrimping. Sometimes parents or students are willing to pay more for some schools, borrow more for some schools than others. it’s really an individual thing. </p>
<p>We set a dollar amount that we could pay for our son for college. He picked a college that was doable with that contribution. He could have gone pretty much for free and saved ourselves and him a lot of money, or gone to an instate public that would have cost half of what his choice is costing, but he chose to go to a school that maxed out what we contribute and he pays for the rest with summer jobs, a school year job and a small loan which he managed to pay off with his job this year, and by living off campus and saving some money that way. But he, and his brothers all could have chosen less expensive options as well as more expensive ones, and they took something that was doable within our constraints and theirs. Which I feel is fine. When it starts getting into borrowing more than one is willing or should based on finances, that’s when it becomes an issue.</p>
<p>You should discuss all of your choices with your parents when the offers are on the table with bottom line costs without loans, and see what options they and you have in paying for them. It’s really a joint decision, but it’s also nice to keep in mind your parents’ financial situation. If you know they are struggling that way and are putting on some bravado and volunteering to borrow large amount, it may be time for you to step up. But all of this is individual to families and situations.</p>
<p>My son’s best friend is at UTampa on fin aid and scholarship. He turned down UMiami for about the same reason you did. It could have been done, but the loans everyone would have had to take were not worth it. On the other hand, he also turned down staying local and going to school for free. He and his parents are still paying significant amounts to UTampa, but that is within what they felt they could more comfortably manage. We know some kids who are going to UMiami, and how they and their parents are paying for it, I don’t know. They may have the funds ready to afford the school and that’s good for them, if that 's the case. Not so good if they are borrowing at dangerous levels.</p>