<p>I rushed into college without thinking, I thought this would be a good course, but it is just not what I expecting. I know its my fault, and I take full responsibility for it.</p>
<p>I dont want to disappoint everyone, but its my money that Im spending, and I dont believe its going to good use. I think it is more of an adult decision to stop now, rather than just to continue because of what others may think.</p>
<p>I will get Ws on my transcript instead of Fs, so it wont affect me getting in to school later down the road.</p>
<p>Its alright if youre mad or disappointed, I know I should have looked at schools closer to home. But whats done is done. My plan is to return home on, work harder than ever, pay off everything I owe, and then Ill go from there.</p>
<p>i think it’s a great email, and at least it’ll give your parents time to think about it rationally so you won’t have to deal with their initial reactions of shock or anger</p>
<p>I don’t think there is anything wrong with the letter, though it is short and leaves further room for explanation if you personally choose to do so. Its unfortunate that you will be dropping out and not completing college but it seems like your sure of your decision ( as you were sure when you decided to attend the university)? Which brings question on what are all the factors to you dropping out? Its fairly early for a college freshmen as this is probably often freshmens thoughts being away from home at once.</p>
<p>The first time I saw you write “I take full responsibility for it” I thought, “Does he really mean that? Is he going to take care of all the money other people have spent on this semester?” I don’t mean that I think everyone who drops out necessarily ought to pay the bills for that semester. In many cases I think it would be wrong to ask them to. But I thought “I take full responsibility” was probably an empty phrase, and I thought that if I were paying your tuition it would really annoy me.</p>
<p>Now that I read that you are paying for it, though, I’m impressed by that “I take full responsibility” bit.</p>
<p>I also really like the bit about the Ws rather than Fs. It shows that you have given some thought to the consequences of your decision. Since you are saying that you didn’t accurately predict what was going to happen with you going off to college, it suggests that you are learning from your mistakes.</p>
<p>The one thing that I might consider adding, if I were you, is something about how you plan to live after you return home. Will you be living with your parents? I would probably ask them whether I could live with them or, if I took it for granted that they would welcome me back (some parents would, my parents wouldn’t) I would probably say something to suggest that since I am an adult I expect to contribute to the household – paying my share of utilities and groceries (bills that will increase with another person living there) and possibly of rent or mortgage (which will not increase with you living there, but which might be burdensome for your parents all the same).</p>
<p>I hope your parents respond in a supportive way, and I wish you success with whatever you might decide to do in the future.</p>
<p>Email would be my last option, if you are serious you should call them or even better, tell them face to face. Im sure they will have questions as to why you are making these decisions and also what your future plans will be.</p>
<p>I think email is best for at least introducing the concept. It’s better than calling them, saying “I’m leaving college” and then hearing “OMG YOU CAN’T DO THAT ***.”</p>
<p>I emailed my parents saying I wanted to drop out, because of a variety of reasons, and it worked out pretty well. I called both of them a couple hours after and the conversation was a lot more calm than it would have been if I had called them and said upfront all the things that I was doing.</p>
<p>I would tell the parent who can handle your decision more rationally first. At least, you won’t be outnumbered and they can help soften the blow for the more volatile of the 'rents. Best of luck.</p>
<p>Did you at least inform your parents you were having problems, like was suggested to you in the last thread? If you didn’t, then that letter is WAY too short. You gave no explanation at all, and I imagine they would be very unhappy with you that you didn’t let them try to talk you into staying. It seems like you didn’t give much thought to it when you don’t explain yourself better.</p>
<p>Of course, I’m sure everyone here thinks you should stay, too. That said, if you are on a course to finish the semester with F’s, then by all means take the W’s.</p>
<p>I decided just to call them, I was so nervous, but I explained the situation to them, and they were supportive of me. You have no idea how relived I feel right now :)</p>
<p>Cody - I’m so glad you talked to your parents. As the parent of a S 8 hours away I can only imagine how alone you could feel. I hope things work out what ever you decide to do. </p>
<p>Please keep us posted because there are some on here who are really concerned about you.</p>