<p>I know that there are many changes during the teenagers years and some kids mature before others, but this case it seems a little too unusual to me. Im talking of a 19 years old sophomore college student who stills takes to college his Bubo (a raggedy teddy bear); he has shown tantrums very often, and he gets out of his mind when somebody films in a party to the point to start crying. Besides this, school is hard for him and he is homesick. Any thoughts about this?</p>
<p>someone needs to get laid…</p>
<p>separation anxiety…? I’d recommend you to get a professional help.</p>
<p>You can get that with my suggestion, but without any commitment :P</p>
<p>I know this kid for many years and if I could do something for him…(his parents said it’s a normal behavior, but I’m getting worried that it’s not).</p>
<p>There was some seriousness to what I said - he was really attached to home, and while that may not change, giving him attachment at school will subdue his homesickness. Get him involved with your peer group and such…<em>cough</em>party*cough</p>
<p>That’s definately abnormal for his age… does his behavior cause him distress and problems with occupational and social functioning? Those are some basic criteria to tell if its enough of a problem to warrent concern.</p>
<p>with what you describe, it almost sounds as if he has asperger’s syndrome</p>
<p>Do you mean autistic? I don’t think so, when he took the SAT, his parents asked the school psychologist to enroll him in the learning disabilities group so he could have no timed tests; he did well then and now he is attending one of the top 15th universities. He does well socially with certain groups, but always with the laggards where he can be bossy, otherwise, he gets frustrated. My main concern is his future. He should be deciding majors by the end of next semester, and he doesn’t have a preference in sight. He has been trying different subjects and most of those courses he ended dropping them. His schedule could be something like this: a photography class, dinosaurs, Japanese culture, origins of a native American group, public speaking, intro to business, etc. Lately he is rude with adults, and in a strange way too attached with some members of the family. He did have a girlfriend for almost three years, but she broke up with him a few months ago (he was getting abusive with her weeks before she said she wanted to break up)
What is wrong with this kid?</p>
<p>aspergers isnt quite the same as autisim- many with asperger’s can function quite well in ‘normal’ life, just with a few difficulties in social interactions and immature behavior tendencies
<a href=“http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger’s[/url]”>http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Asperger’s</a></p>
<p>Thank you for the link. It may be something like that… He usually shows too much affection (hugs that never end) or not affection at all (ignoring you). He also gets offended for not reason, and has periods or incontrollable anger, anxiety and rage, but otherwise seems to be a normal kid.
I thought he had some bipolar condition, something that it could be more easily treated, because he is sleeping with a teddy bear and later he shouts at you pretending be treated as an adult. I’m surprised that his suitemates didn’t notice his changes in behaviors at all; for that reason, I asked if this was normal in college students.
I hope he could survive the next couple of years of college without breakdowns.</p>
<p>At first when I was reading the OP, I thought; “man, thinking someone is immature because they bring their teddy bear to school” (I mean, I’m 24 and still sleep with my teddy bear…shhhh…). However, with further reading, I think there may be a problem with him that may need counseling. Don’t let someone on this forum self-diagnose him. He should really go to the counseling center on campus if his behavior is getting in the way of his well-being. However, he’s an adult and can refuse help unless he is a (physical) danger to himself or others.</p>
<p>I’m thinking autism for the diagnosis. I went to high school with a kid sort of similar to this one. The guy was in LS for the same reason (test timing) and while he didn’t have a stuffed animal he seemed to always wear the same things (notably a 1992 Olympics shirt). The guy had a lot of social troubles–things bothered him (like the word “ponytail” for some reason) and he threw a lot of tantrums.</p>
<p>Despite all this, the kid was pretty bright. In 2004, he supported John Kerry and defended his argument very well (against my buddy and I who were voting for Bush). He also got decent grades in his modified classes for what I know. But the most remarkable thing is the guy was very gifted musically. He could sing incredibly well and was also a top-notch saxophone player. While marching band wasn’t the best thing for him and he had to have an aide with him, the kid had so much talent you had to keep him on the roster. Before band started his mom gave a heads-up at the meeting to all of us about his condition so we all knew.</p>
<p>I’m not sure what he would do about college–he’s still in HS. I’d love to see this guy go into music, but it remains to be seen how he would survive on campus.</p>
<p>It may be something like autism, but my first thought was that he was probably coddled too much as a child, so now he doesn’t even know how to act “grown”…but idk, i’m not a psych major</p>