<p>my roommate and i get along pretty well. we has to sign a roommate agreement in the beginning of the year and so far things are okay. but there are somethings that bother me and i was wondering if it is normal?
first off sometimes we never talk to one another. she or i can walk in the room while the other one is in there and speak zero words to each other. i personally feel uncomfortable with the silence but i guess it’s okay.
second, she just rearranged the room one night when i went out. she didn’t move my stuff but now her desk is facing my bed meaning when she puts her face on in the morning that is what i get to wake up to
third, she attempts to hide alcohol in the fridge. she currently has a huge bottle of vodka in the back of the fridge surrounded by water bottles. it’s not the problem of there being alcohol i am more annoyed she is taking up so much room…
is it weird that i dread when she comes into the room whenever I’m alone?
honestly she could be a worse off roommate and she is a decent person. i am just wondering if this is normal?</p>
<p>Not talking: Well, have you tried talking to her? If it bothers you, say hi and strike up a conversation when she comes in. But it’s not out of the ordinary to have quiet in a room, especially if someone is busy the other roommate might not want to disturb them. So, sometimes quiet is really nice, but if it’s awkward and super quiet, say something. Literally.</p>
<p>Fridge: Again, talking works wonders… if the alcohol bothers you, tell her you’re worried you might get in trouble for it or that it makes you uncomfortable, ask her to stop keeping it in the fridge. If the issue really is the space, then frame it that way. “Hey roomie, I noticed you’ve been using a lot of fridge space lately and I was hoping we could rearrange it so we each have half.”</p>
<p>Dread: Is it her specifically, or just people in general? Suppose your roommate was someone else, would it still bother you? If it’s just sharing a space with someone that bothers you, that’s pretty normal… if it’s her that’s a problem, sorry. But it sounds like that ties into the awkward silence thing, so maybe if you can get her to talk once in a while it’d be better?</p>
<p>Yes, why don’t YOU say “hi” when you walk in the room if you want to have an exchange with her?? And ask her if the vodka HAS to be cold (most adults don’t keep it in the fridge…), since it is taking up a lot of space. Although you do run the risk of YOU getting in trouble if it is found in your room… but that is not what you asked about.</p>