<p>So I was pretty satisfied with getting into Stanford SCEA… felt everything was set, right? So I get into Princeton, Yale, and Columbia just a few days ago and I’m ecstatic. My parents were also proud and pleased, but recently they have been pulling loads of crap; threatening to take away my tuition if I don’t do what they say, taking my car away, and locking me in the house (and I’m 18). Is this normal or just completely crazy?</p>
<p>Idk, it’s a common threat. My parents used it on me too.</p>
<p>But a happy dilemma nonetheless, no…?</p>
<p>i know what you mean, stoompy312, i’m experiencing that too after I got my Princeton acceptance</p>
<p>my father’s been depressed ever since i got in</p>
<p>^ my dad’s been thrilled to death that I’ve gotten in, but he’s really depressed and stressed that it’s so far away from home (i live in little rock, arkansas) and that it’s going to cost some money (not too terribly, but he’s hooked on the free ride I have at the U of A ---- Princeton vs. U of A… hmmmmm)</p>
<p>but he’s accepted that I’m going to princeton, and he’s thrilled I have the opportunity… he just has some other mixed emotions about it as well</p>
<p>What role is your behavior playing in your parent’s behavior?
You wouldn’t be the first senior to act up a little…maybe they are just being loving parents.</p>
<p>Just flexing their parental control. Stay calm and show respect and they will give you your “privileges” back.</p>
<p>Your parents just want to use their parent chops while they still have the chance. They don’t want you to leave! Be on your best behavior and even hug them and say, “I don’t know if I want to go far away to college…” (even if it’s a lie, try it once) or “thanks for helping me get in.” (even if all they did was sign the check for the app fees). Even better, before you make up your mind, ask them if you can all sit down and talk–tell them you’d like to get their advice. Then ask them where they think you should go to school.
They’ll not only give you the keys back, but buy you new wheels.</p>
<p>Great advice Stringkeymom! Those parents are still in recovery from the stress of their child’s apps process. Probably happy and proud s/he is accepted, and terrified of the reality -s/he is fleeing the nest! And it is going to be a very expensive four years! Also parents can feel envious-all the amazing experiences child will have while M & D are home working.</p>