<p>Just curious if this is the norm for married people. I live on the opposite part of the city as my parents. My mother said she was going to be on my side of the city on Saturday and wanted to visit. I called today and told her I wasn’t going to be home on Saturday, but I would be home on Friday. She said that wouldn’t work because she had to wait for my father to come home that day. She said that he was coming back home from a business trip and she had to help him unload everything from his car. </p>
<p>My father was home over Christmas and had to go back on Dec. 30, so it’s been about 2 weeks since he’s been home. When my mother meant everything, she meant 3 bags and a few other little things (a job that one person could do).</p>
<p>I was curious and asked her why she had to wait at home the whole day for my father to come home. She said that’s what married people do and that I wouldn’t understand.</p>
<p>Is this common? If I was married, I certaintly wouldn’t want my wife to spend the whole day at home waiting for me and vice versa.</p>
<p>Maybe she just missed him and wanted to see him, two weeks can be along time for some couples. I know couples who haven’t gone two weeks without seeing each other in 30 years.</p>
<p>Que bad 70’s porn music, “Bow, chica bow bow…”</p>
<p>Maybe she did not want to admit that she was busy cleaning the house, shopping for candles, and preparing a nice dinner for your dad? So the two of them can have a romantic meal together, chat and so on? I do it all the time when my H comes home from a business trip, and we’ve been together for a loooong time. He does something similar for me - he takes me out to dinner because he does not like to do dishes. :)</p>
<p>Hmmm… Nice code language… “Honey, can I help you unload stuff fom the car?” (Que some Beatles tunes :))</p>
<p>Stop ladies, kids never want to think about their parents, ummm, romantically. Insomni, its proper and enjoyable to great your spouse who has been away with a big hug. Tell your mom you do want to understand and she should explain marriage from her perspective to you!</p>
<p>Well, I wouldn’t wait ALL DAY at home, but I would be sure to greet him on his return. Give him a nice welcoming and all that. Let him know I missed him. Yep. That’s what married people do. It’s one of the perks.</p>
<p>Before my father-in-law retired, my mother-in-law used to spend ten minutes before he got home from work brushing her hair and putting on fresh lipstick. It amazed me when I first saw that, like some 1950s TV show. They have been married almost 50 years, so maybe that’s a good idea.</p>
<p>thank you for reminding us why married is better…bless your parents for still wanting to be together. Plug your ears and ignore the implications. Now email Mom and invite them for coffee on Sunday.</p>
<p>Well, you never know–the flight might arrive EARLY or late, and you would want to be there. I would be sad to come home to a dark, empty house after a long trip. I think H would be too, but can’t remember it ever happening. :)</p>
<p>OP: I can’t say whether this is “usual” or “unusual”. I only know that your mom cares for your dad so much that she was willing to re-arrange her whole day in order to make sure he had a warm homecoming. If you marry, you will understand how much something like that means. In the meantime, be grateful; having happily married parents is a blessing, not a problem.</p>