<p>This past semester, I went through a pretty tough breakup with my ex girlfriend of a year. When I was finished with school, I was talking with my friend as to what I should to do better help myself get over the break up, and he said write a story about the relationship and everything that happened, because I am a journalism major, so writing comes pretty naturally to me. When I first started writing, I didn’t plan or writing much, but I really began to enjoy it, and I now think i am going to write about the whole relationship and breakup (although I am nowhere close to being done. </p>
<p>Now, I have two questions for all of you. First off, is this a wierd thing to do? And secondly, should I show it to her? While were not best of friends and we dont talk that often, we are on fairly good terms, and when we do talk, it doesnt appear that there is bad bllod between us. I think that it is important to see it, to know how I really felt about everything during the relationship, and more importantly, during the break up. I will, by no means, use the book as a way of trying to get back together with her though. What do you all think?</p>
<p>Yes, it’s completely normal. Many writers write as a form of reverse therapy where YOU get paid to express your thoughts and feelings. For example, “The Glass Menagerie” was Tennessee Williams’ thinly-veiled way of dealing with his guilt for abandoning his family. Tennessee Williams? Tom Wingfield? TW? Coincidence, I think not.</p>
<p>But I would definitely not recommend showing it to her. That’s borderline creepy, especially if it’s a viciously one-sided account. There’s an episode of Frasier where Frasier’s ex-fiancee who left him at the altar, Diane, comes to Seattle with a play about her life. Of course, her version of reality is completely skewered and self-serving and shocks Frasier beyond belief. It’s not a pleasant scenario.</p>
<p>If you really want her to know how your felt or feel, just talk.</p>
<p>every person deals with break ups in different ways and really it all comes down to letting out steam. Some people work out, others cry alot, etc etc and for you writing it out on paper is what lets relieve the tension and stress that has come from the relationship. So no, don’t feel self conscious about it. </p>
<p>But, showing it to her is like shooting yourself in the face. Your not only reminding her of the entire break up again, you’re showing her things that you thought, things that you felt that are not only personal to you but may hurt/anger her. The best thing to do is just be friends and just dont let your relationship and everything about it be a part of anything you guys do together.</p>