To me, at least, nothing you wrote seems particularly tigerish. Like as we were discussing above, I think the tigerish response to the UCs getting a lot more selective is to tell their kids B+ grades are not acceptable, to force them to spend long hours playing an instrument or a sport they don’t actually love, to get on a more advanced math track, and so on, all in an effort to make sure their kid actually wins the competition for UC admission.
It sounds to me like your response is more to recognize and adapt to these changing circumstances in terms of college expectations, and to make sure to be on top of administrative things like signing up early for SAT dates. If that is the gist of your response, I think based on the litmus tests above you would not score as very tigerish.
I recognize some parents might not even do that much, and we have tossed around various terms for parents who are pretty involved in all this without being tigerish about it. But whatever term you like for that approach, it seems like that would be the better fit.
I used to wonder how the other parents kept track of which kids (that weren’t even their own!) were in what book. And how these tiny kids were in like Book 10 but couldn’t tie their own shoes. It was a good week if our teacher didn’t break out her plastic bin of monkey and Minions stickers to create an illustration showing what part of the “Terrible Triangle” I was! One kid left Suzuki at a young age for contact sports (her true love at the time), and the other stayed for 10 very happy, self-directed years and their teacher (not the same one w/stickers) became a close friend.
