<p>Soon, the “elite” colleges will be sending out their decision letters. Unfortuanately, many deserving and well qualified students will not be offered admission because there are many more applicants than there are spaces available. Many qualified students are simply victims of the numbers game.</p>
<p>For those students who are denied admission by the elite colleges, who do you think will handle the rejections better…the students or their parents?</p>
<p>My parents will definitely take it better…they want me to stay close and go to Berkeley or Stanford (which I will not get into) anyways.</p>
<p>Parents who get really upset at their child not getting into overrated and overhyped schools are ridiculous. How badly can the parents really handle it… it’s their child’s college rejection letter… not theirs? Parents really need to stop living through their children sometimes and should be wise enough to know that being rejected from the ivy leagues will not affect their child’s life at all.</p>
<p>Well I didn’t get rejected from an Ivy, but I did get recjected from a school. It seems my parents took it harder.</p>
<p>Quote: Parents who get really upset at their child not getting into overrated and overhyped schools are ridiculous.</p>
<p>It depends on the reasoning behind the upset-ness. If the parents genuinely are sad for their child, maybe overestimating how much an acceptance would have meant to them, then it’s just parental caring. If they have their own secret and devilish motives involving living off of the “big bucks” their Harvard child will make, then, yes, that is a bit ridiculous ;)</p>
<p>I can’t understand how some parents can be so immature. It’s really pitiful, considering they are supposed to be role models.</p>
<p>Perhaps the ones who get so upset over a rejection letter are the ones who use abusive language and tone at their kids’ peewee soccer/football/hockey games, because “THEIR child” deserved a better call, “THEIR child” deserves this, deserves that, blah blah blah. I’m glad I’m not stuck in a household with such idiocy.</p>
<p>I will be taking it harder than my parents if I don’t get into my top choices.</p>
<p>Whoever doesn’t come on CC will be more resilient ;)</p>
<p>hrm another Ivy thread. Anyway, I know a couple of really competitive people that are starting to feel depressed. Why? I’m sure they’d be happy if their parents didn’t hold such high standards and pressure them so much and make them feel worthless if they end up going to a school not in the top ten. i feel bad for a few kids i know. my parents tell me that as long as they know i’m doing my best they don’t care about my college. and you know what? that doesn’t mean they don’t love me or don’t care, they guided me through the applications process and helped me when i needed it, but all the schools on my list were there because I wanted to apply to them, and there will be no parent-inflicted shame if I don’t get into Harvard.</p>
<p>It’s so easy to be selfish like this, because it’s hidden behind the guise of “good parenting”. but it’s called living through your child. let them live for themselves</p>
<p>well, I haven’t heard back from either of my Ivy’s, but I was waitlisted at wustl and carlton. neither I nor my parents gave a flying flip though, I already have nice packages from schools that suit me better personally.</p>
<p>Aren’t most people initially disappointed when they don’t get into their first choice college? Also, doesn’t it feel worse if you are rejected from numerous colleges that populated the top of your list? Most who apply to Ivys and other top schools have them as their top choices (or close to top choices) and should feel disappointed that they didn’t get in. Most people move on after a few days, but it never feels good to be rejected (especially if you believe that you had a great chance of getting in). One person I saw on this forum was deferred ED then rejected RD from his top choice school. He was devastated not because of the name of the school, but because it was the school he wanted to go to with the program that fit his academic interests best.</p>
<p>Now, if dad or mom donated large sums to the alma mater, they would probably feel pretty peeved if their child who was a strong applicant was rejected (and probably should be).</p>
<p>My parents were appalled at my grad school rejection from Columbia; I wasn’t surprised since I didn’t spend much time on the application at all and didn’t really expect to get in anyway.</p>
<p>My parents will be sad that I’m sad over being rejected, but they’ll secretly be happy because it’s just another reason for me to go to a UC instead. They’d much rather pay in-state tuition for Cal/UCLA than the $46,000+ Ivy pricetag.</p>
<p>I will definitely take it worse than my parents. They don’t understand what all the hype is about and say I am stressing out about Thursday way too much.</p>
<p>My father and I will be completely fine cuz I’m already into great schools and if the Ivies don’t want me, whatever, it’s like the lottery at this point. I’m still proud of what I’ve done in high school. The only school I’d be upset about not getting into is Pepperdine, cuz it’s my safety and it’s basically perfect for me (if I don’t get into like freakin Harvard haha.) But otherwise, choosing between Rice (which I’m into) and Pepperdine would be great as far as I’m concerned.</p>
<p>My mother, on the other hand, throws an emotional fit whenever I get rejected from anything–not cuz she’s scheming or whatever. I’m just her only child (my dad has kids from his second marriage) and she only sees me a few months a year.</p>
<p>mboyle ^ my parents are the exact same way.</p>
<p>I don’t know about taking rejections, because I’m already into 6/11, but my other friends seem to have taken rejections from their schools pretty well.</p>
<p>The parents should grow up. For the kids it will be a learning experiece because if they work hard at an non-IVY they could do just as well in life.</p>