<p>Now that the website was deleted I don’t know how I am going to procrastinate anymore while sitting in the library. This is a sad day.</p>
<p>Whatever happened to Boredat?</p>
<p>There will always be craigslist.</p>
<p>why did juicy close? </p>
<p>Cornell - ACB is the official replacement it seems…</p>
<p>bored@ was never successful I think b/c of Cornell’s DC++ chat</p>
<p>No way for me to check on what’s going on any more. It was a shocker one time to see my daughter’s name mentioned, luckily it wasn’t anything bad (lucky for her).</p>
<p>oh wow! when did this happen? THANK GOD.</p>
<p>I’m embarrassed that a parent checks that site! ahh it was awful.</p>
<p>It was awful, but it’s my job to keep a tab on what’s going on.</p>
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<p>I’m sorry, but that just seems a bit funny to me. How old is your daughter?</p>
<p>Not funny at all. Many adults are on there. A good friend of my daughter from HS just died of over does of drugs this weekend. The parents were shocked. Hundreds of people came to mourn the lost of a great kid. The parents had no idea the kid was into drugs - we trusted him, great lacross player, surfer, all American kid.</p>
<p>The loss of a young life to preventable occurrences is tragic. A student from my high school died of alcohol poisoning at MIT. But what does this have to do with ■■■■■■■■ anonymous online gossip sites? Are you next going to start scoping out the bathroom graffiti of every bar in Collegetown? </p>
<p>And as an adult presence on this board who appears to be concerned about student behavior, you were remarkably absent when several underage posters made the claim that drinking and driving is “safe”.</p>
<p>I could go a lot further, but I think you know where I am going with this. You can either trust your daughter or you don’t. End of story.</p>
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<p>They don’t have the money to run anymore apparently.</p>
<p>My last post was not necessary. I wrote it in between my two meetings. Not to imply it was the parents’ fault or they could have done anything to prevent it. The whole community is still trying to recover from it. Many Cornellians came home for the service.</p>
<p>CR2005 - you are not a parent, you have no idea what it takes to raise a child to an adulthoold. I thought I had all the answers before my kids came along because I could see all the mistakes my parents made with me, but I still don’t after 20 years. We do the best we can to make sure they grow up to be healthy and productive. Internet is still a very new media for all of us, how to protect our children against predators is still being studied by many experts and that’s why you have adults on sites like JuicyCampus, myspace, FB…</p>
<p>I believe many parents hide behind “I trust my children” to not doing their jobs. My children have told me as such. They said their friends could do whatever they want in HS because their parents trust them, but in reality it is easier for parents not to know. They said if the parents knew how often their kids were DWI, having sex with random people, or doing drugs, they would be horrified, but they chose not to know. Believe it or not, they have actually thanked me for caring.</p>
<p>@oldfort:</p>
<p>There are a LOT of kids (I’m one of them) that don’t use drugs or alcohol at all.</p>
<p>Ding dong the witch is dead</p>
<p>Oldfort – </p>
<p>I largely agree with your sentiments, and I wish that all parents took as active of a role in the development of their children through adolescence as you have.</p>
<p>I just disagree that there is much parents can do when their children are in college to affect the course of their decision-making. By eleventh grade, many behavioral habits are already largely ingrained. The problem lies in parents not actively parenting through middle-school and high-school, not whatever influence one can try to have on a young adult from afar while they are in college. The time to not be trusting is in middle-school and high-school, not in college. And let’s get real here, there’s no way to keep a tab as to what is going on by reading an anonymous website. </p>
<p>If I look at my friends from Cornell, we comprised an incredibly responsible bunch. Half of us didn’t drink until we were 21. And there was very little experimentation with pot or casual romantic encounters. We stood largely in shock at the number of people using cocaine, engaging in casual sex, and demonstrating all-around reprehensible and rude behavior. </p>
<p>I can’t explain all of the behavioral differences out there, but I think a lot of it comes down to social class and parenting behavior. One way to describe it would be that we had the type of parents who were always active in our lives, not the type that would go off on vacation by themselves. I can think back to the one Easter vacation I took with my parents when I was shocked to find scores of early-teens unchaperoned by themselves on a beach at a night.</p>
<p>But all of our parents trusted us; in fact, we didn’t really have all that much contact with our parents – maybe a fifteen minute phone call once a week. And none of our parents tried to snoop on us. (How could they? Facebook wasn’t around back then, and my mother just recently realized that she could Google my name.) Because they knew there was no need.</p>
<p>Of course, parenting styles will differ, and for every prudent parent there is the enterprising parent who thinks their children should “live it up” and enjoy all of the parties and engagements with the opposite sex, because that’s what they did when they were young. So what do I know.</p>
<p>While I agree with Cayuga (again <3) I do see a point in what oldFort says…</p>
<p>some kids have different relationships with their parents…</p>
<p>oldfort: what would you have done if what was said online about your daughter had been negative? would you have cut money off from her? would you have denied her the opportunity to come back to cornell?</p>
<p>No, I would have discussed it with her first and I would have taken her word for it. I know her and I am fairly certain what is in her character to do or not do. FYI - I didn’t go on Juicycampus to check up on her, I was on it to get a sense of current campus life, more specifically Greek life. I started doing some research online and reading up on the Greek life when she first told me she was interested in it. Trust me, what I have read about Greek life did not put my mind at ease. I raised my concerns with her and we discussed it in detail before she went through the rush last year. </p>
<p>I am more into preventive parenting. Is my daughter an angel? No. Is she responsible? Yes. Will she make mistakes (or has she)? Yes. I would rather know what she’s doing, even if I don’t agree with it, than to find out later when a mistake is irrevocable.</p>
<p>Our contract with our daughter concerning college is to get a certain GPA and graduate in 4 years. As long as she’s holding up her part of the bargain I wouldn’t use finance to control her personal life.</p>
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<p>Well then that paints a very different story. As it first came across it sounded like you were trying to keep tabs on your daughter by looking for mentions of her name on the site and suggesting that less than dieal behavior could be curtailed through such monitoring.</p>
<p>Even so, I wouldn’t depend on Juicy Campus to get a well-rounded picture of Greek life. And that’s coming from somebody who has been known to offer a lot of criticisms of the Greek system.</p>
<p>its for the best that juicy campus was shut down. i know multiple people who had entire topics about them (not just a post) and it was horrible to read the things other students would write. you would think that college students, specifically CORNELL students, would grow out of the whole high school drama mentality, but really they dont. everyone is just looking to put someone else down to mask their own insecurities.</p>
<p>juicycampus is definitely one of main contributers of the tension with all of the houses in the greek community. no one would care about the “tiers” if it werent for everyone ranking the houses multiple times a day.</p>
<p>and oldfort, you are just like my parents: protective, calling multiple times a day…they even have my facebook password. do i mind? no. it just means that they care about me and i wouldnt change that for the world. they are just looking out for me to make sure that i am safe.</p>
<p>But is was a great way to find out where frat parties are</p>
<p>Never even heard of JuicyCamapus until this week.</p>