@ChoatieMom yes to post #18.
We didn’t either. But the OP and son evidently have a good relationship. My daughter did talk to us about hers but that was because her significant other was coming home with her (she lives in our area also) and spending a holiday with us for dinner etc. We got to know her and she was lovely but not someone we could see long term with. We didn’t say anything but we supported my daughter when they broke up after a year. Both wanted different things out of their future. All we could do was support our child. At school they together a lot and I couldn’t care where my daughter (and son in college) sleep. As long as their happy and healthy and have a place to go back to. College is about spreading your wings and trying new things. Failing can lead to success. My only concern actually is his studies. If she is encouraging and in school also and they both have goals and motivate each other, then that’s not have bad. I needed that out of my girlfriend now wife.
But if she is not that and planning on dropping out and motivating your son to abandon his dreams and goals then to me that is a problem.
You raised a good kid. . Sometimes we got to trust Them. Again, explain to him what your budget is. See what he can do with that
Maybe check out some pricing online so your realistic.
BTW - this is all in the parenting rule book somewhere ??.