In my son’s Calc class for example, the teacher suggested homework, but told the kids they only needed to do as many as they required to understand the work. For my kid that meant maybe 15 minutes of work. But most Calc courses won’t be taught like this. Keep in mind, that most college students only take four or five courses at a time so six AP courses, at least the ones that are equivalent to full year college courses, (I don’t think all on your list are), means that she’d be working harder than your average college student. Good luck to her!
How important is the merit money? Do you need it for your daughter to go to college? We have a family in our school who can afford to send their dd anywhere, had her take every honors, AP class, and extracurricular, stressed her to the max, and she ended up at a very good OOS flagship on a full scholarship. Another girl in the same class took a couple of honors/ AP, a moderate amount of ECs and had a very busy social life, and goes to the same college, albeit with only partial aid.
Is the whole point of all of this to make sure that a 16 year old girl will work on wall street? I think the OP needs to step back a little and let the daughter figure out her own direction
Do not judge people without knowing facts. Can you tell your kids what to do. Nobody can tells kids in America to do anything let alone them choose a career what parents want them to do. kids who attend prep school go there to find what they want to do and take risks in life, they explore and push their boundaries as much earlier age than college aid kids. Fortunately lucky for me that my communication line are open with my kids. I care about them and their well being. These needs based scholarships kid attend these schools not because they have dad trust funds, most of the kids do not have even adults who are highly educated and write grammatically correct. they do it to find and solve their curiosity. I created this thread because daughter is expressing what she wants to do, not because I told her so.
Our family has no idea a what a hedge fund or walll street has to offer. But when daughter went to prep school, first time met kids whose family have not millions but billions, rest is history instead of becoming Harvard PHd in math and work somewhere they chose their on path, second one followed first one, third one is following them or third one may take an entire new path. If they want money so be it, they want to do go in politics so be it, and if they want to pursue teaching so be it,
If I have a trust fund myself, I would not be asking questions here on cc. I am just merely following what they think and what they want to do like everyone is doing on cc. I am no different than most of you are. Since you are highlly qualified, think other side before passing judgement. In investing it will cost you dearly to be on the wrong side of the bets.
One more thing in 5 minute phone conerversation, you can not control someone, actually you give them more power by let them taking command of their life by being independent at much earlier stage in life by attending prep school. after all each decision has a positive or negative outcome. You can give them tools but not dictate them what to do in life.
Miss Alice nothing is certain. I have already told her how much we can afford. And would advice her not to take too much debt in the name of prestige as debt means you are slave to someone else.
Admission is a crap shoot, even the best of the best are being denied admission, so plan early and must have a second and third options if one need $$$$$$$ in need based aid
These are you are own words. What is wrong with public school? I have never met a 16 year old who was dead set on being a venture capitalist. My D went to public school and did just fine. We also got to see her every day of HS which was a plus for our family
“Do not judge people without knowing facts” - Don’t be offended. YOU are the one that started the thread and asked for input. You can’t expect to only get what you want to hear, without parents trying to share their hard earned wisdom.
Some info will be relevant. The rest you can ignore, since you best understand the nuances of the situation. Remember - these threads help a big audience of silent reader, not just your family. .
I am not offended, I am just wondering how people think one can control another human being when the other person start living away from you. I emailed this thread link to my all three daughters and they told me not to worry as I tend to because I love them and will put their well being before mine.
And I really want to thank people who give suggestions. And most thankful to people who donated money to prep schools and colleges where our kind of kids who gets need based aid are able to attend.
College dad my two daughters are already and third one wants to do so. But I am worried that she is taking too much hard course load. Unfortunately English not being first language, I do not have good command and it may show in tone as I think, translate and then write response.
Collegedad13 you are happy with your kids choices, I am happy with my kids choices, nothing else
Enough said . Let her decide with her counselors help what is best
@nynycasino1234 - Your English is excellent! Sorry if I accidentally misunderstood tone in your posts - I didn’t realize English was not your primary language. .
Daughter has mainatined equivalent of 4.0 GPA in two years so far for 9 and 10 grade.