<p>My brother was a straight A student all of his life. He worked hard with the thought " If i can just finish collegee with a descent gpa, I’m set." He went to Wake Forest and joined a frat as quickly as possible. My parents were notified frequently that his grades “must improve” It went from one failed class as a freshman, to 2 as a sophomore, and 2 once again as a junior. My parents were so enfuriated with his party first- school second lifestyle they decided to pull him out. Is he totally screwed?</p>
<p>depends what his goals in life were. if they involved getting a college degree it’s not completely over. he might just have to pay for school out of his own money now is all.</p>
<p>They can’t “pull him out.” They can stop paying in which case he has to foot the bill through loans/working/budget tuition, but they can’t actually MAKE him stop going.</p>
<p>well yeah but he doesn’t have near the amount it takes to pay, so essentially it’s pretty much pulling him out</p>
<p>No, it isn’t. He is an adult, though it doesn’t sound like he’s particularly acted like one. Maybe if he’s paying for his college he’ll actually take it seriously instead of failing 5 classes in 3 years.</p>
<p>Sounds like your parents are winners.</p>
<p>If I was a parent I’d just not pay anything if he was flunking so much. His gpa has to be like 1.something.</p>
<p>well for each class he failed, he would have to pay for that class but it’s gotten to a point where they’re just like “I wont pay for ANYTHING now” and he cant pay or all of it</p>
<p>^Yes, he can. People do it every single day.</p>
<p>Yes, he’d probably have to take out loans. But again, people do it every single day. Stop making excuses for him and tell him to grow up.</p>
<p>It sounds like he just doesn’t take college seriously. If he really wanted to be there, he would find a way to stay.</p>
<p>Personally, I think what your parents did is completely reasonable. There’s no reason for them to fit the bill when he isn’t doing everything he can to succeed.</p>
<p>OP, why do i feel like your “brother” is actually you?</p>
<p>^I felt the same way.</p>
<p>^ He probably is.</p>
<p>Ohhh gosh. The kid has to pay for his own education. Oh what a shocker. It stinks but that’s life…you fail your classes, there are consequences. He can get a job and go to school part-time instead. Or transfer to a cheaper state college.</p>
<p>5 fails in 3 yrs aren’t that bad if the classes aren’t related to your majors…</p>
<p>Why do parents always look at what the few things the kid did wrongly and never see the goods. He fails 5 classes, so what?? Not saying it’s a good thing but (assuming he takes 8 classes per yr) he passes 19 of them. Doesn’t that count for anything? </p>
<p>Anyway, your “brother” should just take a loan and finish college. It’s better than sit at home and try to find a minimum wage job.</p>
<p>btw, the idea of finishing college with a high gpa setting u up for life is just a myth.</p>
<p>“5 fails in 3 yrs aren’t that bad if the classes aren’t related to your majors…”</p>
<p>At my school they would done an academic dismissal by then. 5 Fs = kicked out. Fo sho. Even 5 Ds if it drops your GPA low enough.</p>
<p>“5 fails in 3 yrs aren’t that bad if the classes aren’t related to your majors…”</p>
<p>you shouldn’t be failing classes you’re paying for regardless whether they are related to your major. now whether you get lower grades in those class than your major classes, is a different story. but you shouldn’t be failing classes, especially 5 when your parents are footing the bill. you might as well tell them ‘**** you’.</p>
<p>"btw, the idea of finishing college with a high gpa setting u up for life is just a myth. "</p>
<p>lol?</p>
<p>There’s always community college and trade school. Learn something useful quick and get a job automatically. It probably won’t pay much but a job’s a job.</p>
<p>Honestly I wouldn’t take my kids out just for a few classes slipping-- I realize how difficult juggling life can be for a youngster. And so I would take away facebook and email from them and tell RA to hull away their other “toys” instead. Taking things away has never failed us in the past and never will even if you’re thousands of miles away. Pulling kid out would be just a waste of money and scholarships… dear lord.</p>
<p>i doubt the RA will be babysitting a student and making sure they don’t play with their “toys”. in any case the real waste of money and scholarships is the student failing classes. pulling him out would at least save you money even if you might lose some scholarships.</p>
<p>What a waste of a wonderful opportunity. </p>
<p>A relative leaves for Wake tomorrow. She waited for months to hear from them, is thrilled to be going … what a TREMENDOUS opportunity! The hopes of an entire family travel with her.</p>
<p>To the OP: what a HORRIBLE waste of such an opportunity. Someone begged to get into that school, but got turned down in your brother’s place.</p>
<p>Shame.</p>