<p>“I’m sure you’ll figure it out,” works nicely.</p>
<p>You don’t have my kid, clearly… she likely would have ended up in the hospital due to the infection if I had not intervened. Certainly in things that aren’t health related I stay pretty much out of it, figuring natural consequences will teach her over time. But there is a limit, and a deep cut high on her leg that did get infected isn’t something I am going to just wait for her to figure out.</p>
<p>Intparent I am sure it was quite a difficult situation. At least she told you so you could offer some guidance, but I totally understand why you were frustrated. It will always warm my heart when my kids reach out. I guess we are always “Mom” even when they won’t listen to us. I just allow myself to not feel responsible for “fixing” things when they choose not to listen to how I try to do so. </p>
<p>Yeah, I was responding to Post#14. Don’t quite know how that happened and didn’t read the whole cut saga. Sorry.</p>
<p>No worries. 
And the cut IS finally healed up. I haven’t seen her all summer, looking forward to checking out the scar when she gets home in two weeks.</p>
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<p>Interesting, my son is exactly the same…sometimes I think the stubbornness comes from being an introvert with a sizable dose of anxiety. At times, it seems like he is just trying to avoid things due to his anxiety. </p>
<p>“This is more male;s feature, females tend to plan a lot.” - Generally that is true. It’s why really bright, inattentive ADHD-ish girls sometimes breeze through school without anybody realizing that they are surviving on brainpower… not organization skills. Then in college (or tough AP/IB hs courses) things fall apart. This happens rarely within one hs, but here in the extended world of CC threads the parents could form a club 
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<p>I do this. I fully admit that. I’m 23 and still do everything the hard way. My mom just muses that she can’t believe I’ve lived this long. The worst was last year when I put off going in for excruciating pain and turns out that I needed to have a complicated gallbladder removal rather than the quick procedure it would’ve been if I had just gone in when I first had pain. </p>
<p>I’d say people grow out of it, but my dad’s in his 50s and is worse than I am. I thank my mom for putting up with us often. </p>
<p>I will also say though as a 23 year old that we really do hear our parents. I’m often amazed (and annoyed) at how often I open my mouth and hear my mom throw her voice a state away through my mouth. </p>
<p>LOL. Good to know, romani.</p>
<p>My 19-year-old son is like that. I try to hold my tongue as much as possible, but it’s hard. When he was seeing a psychiatrist, the doctor told me to keep repeating to myself, “Say nothing, do nothing…” I’ve got that phrase engraved in my brain now. I have to admit, he’s doing well at the moment. Not taking any meds (with doctor’s blessing), working as a summer camp counselor in Wisconsin, making friends, etc. I just can’t figure out what he’s going to do long-term. It’s not my problem, I know!</p>
<p>ML< Of course we worry about our children, even when they are adults. I see people filled with anxiety when their 50 year olds lose a job. Our children are not yet launched nor in stable situations. It does sound like your son is in a good place now.</p>