<p>Parlabane</p>
<p>having recently dropped my son off for his prep year at Exeter i certainly never felt that there was an emphasis on achievement vs being a good human being. </p>
<p>The founding words of the school say </p>
<p>“Above all, it is expected that the attention of instructors to the disposition of the minds and morals of the youth under their charge will exceed every other care; well considering that though goodness without knowledge is weak and feeble, yet knowledge without goodness is dangerous, and that both united form the noblest character, and lay the surest foundation of usefulness to mankind.”</p>
<p>I certainly found that all the conversations i had with faculty and administrators at Exeter, and all their non verbal communication indicated a genuine concern with balancing these two needs. </p>
<p>While i certainly can not claim extensive actual (or parental) experience, i find no basis to support or agree with your fairly blanket assertion, which i take a a bit of a condemnation.</p>
<p>Can you give us more substance to support your comment.</p>
<p>I certainly agree that there is or are examples of kids (and adults) not living up to the institution’s expectations, i would not think that this is unique to this situation, and that we need to look at the larger perspective.</p>