<p>My friends cousin had se<em>x at sleepaway camp. Shes 16. She attends a camp in Canada so mabye it is diffrent but at all my previous camps (That were not all girl, which two of them were) if you were caught having se</em>x at camp, or doing anything like giving a boy a bj you would be expelled. Make a long story short the condom broke and she had to get morning after pills, so the camp had to have known. She even had to call ehr mother to get permission. How would you react if you found out your kid was having se<em>x at camp? Do you think as parents it sheds a bad light on sleepaway camps that se</em>x is happaning there? Granted your kid could be having se*x in your bed under your nose but it seems diffrent at sleepaway camp, becuase in ym experince you would be expelled if the camp found out. Now alot fo times thye dont and these kdsia re very careful that they dont but still.</p>
<p>have to admit this is not something I have thought about
My daughter attends an ACA acreditted camp and her sister used to be a counselor there.
Although I see there are rules governing
clothing and body art
drugs /alcohol
cigarettes
weapons
violence threats bullying…
cooperative behavior
I don’t see anything about fornication!
Actually I think that having the whole camp know about it and having to call your mother is probably punishment enough depending on the kid.
IF this was a couple that had a ongoing relationship- I would actually want to commend them for using birthcontrol although I would also take the opportunity for a discussion about appropriateness of behavior and if the camp rules said send them home _ I wouldnt fight it.
But frankly- I expect my daughter to fall into bed at the end of the day at camp and have no energy to get up again until morning ;)</p>
<p>I expect the camp to make rules and the camp to enforce them, and I would back them up to the hilt. I would be more upset by the camp not following through on their commitments (if they happened to find out) than I would about my d. having sex (provided she met all the other expectations that we’ve made of her for doing so.)</p>
<p>Let’s face it, kids who want to have sex will have sex anywhere. A camp can’t police them every minute. I think this is hardly unusual.</p>
<p>Guess you missed “Little Darlings”</p>
<p>What is Little Darlings?</p>
<p>I went on a weeklong trip with my daughters 8th grade class.
I had a cabin of about 10 girls to supervise.
wow
some of these girls were advanced or at least wanted to behave that way.
They tried to sneak out but I was waiting for them and followed them ( they had gone to bed with all their clothes on- “we’re comfortable really!”, - I had been alerted earlier when they asked to sleep in the “meadow”- the teacher who had a cabin far away from the students- said it was up to me & because I am so mean I said no.
I told the teachers what was going on, ( giving these girls they really shouldn’t have been surprised- I don’t think appearance always dictates behavior but when you have one group of girls who have their hair in pigtails and wouldn’t think of bringing make up to camp, and one group who wear eyeliner- hoop earrings, belly shirts to show off their pierced navels, sometimes the stereotypes give you an idea of what kids to keep your eye on.) and the next night the teachers were prepared and staked out a place where they could watch the boys and girls cabins</p>
<p>I got the evil eye the next day from the boys they had arranged to meet- I have no idea what they were planning on doing- but as I was responsible for them- I didn’t want them wandering around unsupervised.
But ya know- I also sensed a sigh of relief. Their bodies may have been telling them one thing, but their heads were telling them something else & it was a relief to have an adult step in and give their heads some backup</p>
<p>At a residential camp, I know that often times the counselors are in a seperate room from the campers- I don’t blame them, and it would be easy to sneak out.
I used to sneak out of my own house myself when I was about that age- so I know it isn’t hard to do.
They are really good kids and I enjoyed them- and it was a good topic for discussion the next night.( why kids are in a hurry to grow up)</p>
<p>My son has attended a camp where I would not have guessed there would be much, if any, sexual activity. But he has been aware of at least some. We should probably assume that 16-17 yo kids who are going to have sex will figure out a way, even at a well-run, well-supervised camp. I wouldn’t necessarily expect kids to get thrown out of camp for this the way they would be for drugs or underage drinking. 8th graders, of course, are a different story. Both boys and girls that age probably need to be protected from situations where they might get in over their heads. (I have a personal experience of being a pretty sheltered 12 yo and spending the night with a “fast” girlfriend. We snuck out of her house and met up with two 16 year-olds she knew who had stolen a car.)</p>
<p>I went on school trips as a kid (about that age). Some of them were hard-core - they would tape us into our rooms and then give us the okay in the am to come out. Essentially, they ran a strip of tape along the botton of the door, connecting it to the doorframe. If you went out, the tape came off - and you couldn’t get it back on from the inside. </p>
<p>Science team was different - they trusted us more - but it was a smaller group (maybe 25 of us) who had worked together since September. About all that happened in those more innocent times was kissing - sometimes a lot of it, but that was the extent of the craziness. Mostly, we were all too busy (prepping for competition and competing) to have enough time to sneak around!</p>
<p>Unless you have a good way of monitoring the kids (like the tape) or you really trust them (like Science Team), then, as Kirmum said, it’s almost useless to police them. Kids who want to make out or experiment or whatever are going to do it. You can make it difficult or at least not make it easy, but that’s about it.</p>
<p>Little Darlings is the ultimate movie about having sex at camp.Tatum O’Neal and Kristy McNichol play two 15 year old girls at sleep-away camp who have a contest to see who can lose their virginity first. They both pick up boys, but I can’t remember who wins!</p>
<p>Oh my
theres alot that goes on at summer camp! Both my kids attended a well known performing arts camp,maybe even the same one SoozieVT’s D has gone to. Theres a large group of older teenage kids (the majority) and tons of counselors from all over the world.Lots of hormones raging.There’s an infamous area of open field that has (or had as of 2 years ago) the name of F**K Field. Mattresses in the lighting lofts of the theaters,etc.
Kids will do what they want to do and find a way.</p>
<p>Hey…we may have been at the same camp!! I think this happens all the time…IMHO when teenagers are at camp these things have been happening and will continue to happen.</p>
<p>Problem with away camp is lack of preparation, if you know what I mean…that is what truly worries me…camps are in the woods sometimes, with no stores nearby, and…</p>
<p>yeah, they will find a way, but, not always so “carefully”</p>
<p>I wonder how many come home with, well, health issues</p>
<p>Most camps have health services…including MDs on staff…at least where I went to camp they did…problem was they had a conservative bent and did not dispense condoms…so simple but not done. I don’t know a teenager who wouldn’t take a supply and someone in the cabin always had “stuff”. I am always surprised that parents don’t send the stuff…you always should have supplies before you need them!!!</p>
<p>Doesn’t one of the moms have a great story about negotiating with her S about condoms on a trip he was taking with the school to Africa - but his girlfriend was goign to be there? She thought 90 days = 90 condoms, and he wanted 30 - they negotiated to 45… right? Someone? Mom in question? (It’s a great story!)</p>
<p>I sent a box of condoms to camp with my son. I figure even if he doesn’t need them, someone might.</p>
<p>(the condoms for Africa was a great story. As I recall, after intense negotiations with mom the suitcase with the condoms was lost en transit and never made it to Africa.)</p>
<p>My mom did that and they were always taken by someone…sometimes counselors…a community supply.</p>
<p>Cathymee if you are talking about the camp I think you are I am leaving for that camp in 1 week lol</p>
<p>Funny thing about Little Darlings–several of the female leads turned out gay/bi. Not that there’s anything wrong with that.</p>
<p>What about gay sex at these camps? That can go on wholly unsupervised!</p>