<p>It also does discriminate against girls who aren’t toothpicks
I have one daughter who is a DD 5’3 and 110 lbs and one who is a B and 5’7" and 115 lbs
the same dress is going to fit each of them very differently
It is practically impossible to find any dress that doesn’t show your shoulders ( and anyway- I like sleeveless)
If all my friends have no boobs and are wearing spaghetti straps , I am going to feel really dowdy if I am wearing something with sleeves.
Now my niece is “full featured” and Mormon, so she did wear a conservative prom dress, but she had it made for her, because you just can’t find them like that.
But girls should be able to wear something they find locally- I think there are probably a lot more things to get worked up about than what they wear to the prom ( the music and dancing for one!)</p>
<p>out of those dresses I saw only one that i could see why it might POSSIBLY be deemed inappropriate
its horrible when you think about it
All the time, planning, money, and energy put into getting ready
I have a senior friend who is having her bf from VA fly up (to NY) for prom. Then they’re going to Six Flags after. It’s going to cost almost $1000 in total, with the dress and limo and tickets and everything. If she got turned away at the door I think that would be the saddest thing ever.</p>
<p>then again she’s 6’1" and a stick with arms, gorgeous, smart, and basically perfect. So that would never happen. haha.</p>
<p>I only saw two dresses in there that I considered unfortunate choices – and that was because the dresses didn’t fit the girls perfectly and therefore might have slid into positions that would indeed be revealing. But it can be really tough to find formalwear that actually fits, especially if you cannot afford to pay for alterations, and especially if you’re big on top – I happen to be a triple-D, so I know this from experience. </p>
<p>Most of the girls looked great, and the dresses seemed appropriate for prom.</p>
<p>All I can say is “wow”. This is hard to believe. I agree with others that dress codes for class time should not be the same as for a prom. It is even more astonishing what happened when I now look at the dresses in question. ALL of those dresses looked like the typical prom wear that is for sale and worn to proms. I did not see ANY that appeared inappropriate for a prom. They would not be appropriate to wear to class, however. </p>
<p>Has this teacher looked at prom dresses today? Those dresses looked pretty tame to me. I was expecting to see something more outrageous like cut down the front to the navel or something! These were all typical prom dresses. My kids wore spaghetti straps. Many dresses are strapless for evening wear too. I recall my older D’s prom dress (and she is not one to dress sexy) as not only having spaghetti straps but it had a bare upper back with the spaghetti straps criss crossing down her back. This is evening wear for this age group. </p>
<p>I also think if someone was going to be this strict about using the regular daily dress code, then each dress should have had to go through a prelimenary screening!~ It even appears that one girl already showed her dress to the teacher. I also think there was some discrimination with girls who were more “endowed” than others. </p>
<p>Obviously, at least to me, this is very over the top and unusual or it would not have made the news! I think it is very wrong to turn them away as they arrived at prom. I can’t imagine that experience. These girls appeared dressed like any girls going to prom around the country. I do not know that community. However, with the prom fashions that are currently available…IF the school was going to be this extreme and knows what the stores sell, they should have outlined something very specific ahead of time, not as the girls arrived. The dress code for class is irrelevant in my view.</p>
<p>Although H suggested that a matching Parka might be a nice enhancement to D’s prom dress, I assured him that her “features” would stay properly covered throughout the prom. I’ve got to agree, however, that almost any time we’ve been out looking at dresses, there are some that just belong in the slutty category.</p>
<p>The green dress on the left looks an awful lot like a nightgown I used to have, and you know that most school dress codes prohibit the wearing of lingerie as outer clothing.</p>
<p>Perhaps it’s not too surprising that this is how some parents feel about their relationship with the school district on this issue:</p>
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<p>This kind of dress code enforcement is much stricter than in the surrounding parishes and appears to be unprecedented even for Jefferson Parish.</p>
<p>Giving the administration a chance to get used to them?? </p>
<p>Our local newspaper just did a large color spread on what girls (and their dates) were wearing to prom. Jefferson Parish would have a problem with every last one of them–chests, backs, and “features.”</p>
<p>Even more upsetting is that some of the parents are afraid to complain formally for fear of retaliation against their kids. I’ve spent a fair amount of time in Jefferson Parish schools and unfortunately, I don’t think that’s an unreasonable fear.</p>
<p>Here we go again - the teacher is wrong because she enforced the rules, which is her job. The kids are right because they are doing whatever they want, without regard to the rules. At our school, there are annoucnements that the dress code will be enforced at prom, and students are told that if they have a question as to whether or not the dress will pass muster, that they can bring them in in advance and have them checked by a principal. The dress code is more relaxed than normal, ie. strapless allowed, but I remember the girl last year who wore NO underwear, and her dress was see-through. Her parents saw nothing wrong with that. And, yes, they came with those dresses that are strapless tops like bras, with strings or fabric strips that hold up the skirt just below the hips, with a completely bare midriff and then some… And if this isn’t so bad, you should see what parents are letting their 8th graders wear to the 8th grade dance!!! Kudos to the teacher who had the courage to stand up to the onslaught.</p>
<p>Some kids did exactly that, had their dresses approved in advance and were still turned away on the day of the dance. Have you even looked at the dresses in question? They’re nothing like what you describe; there was no onslaught.</p>
<p>I still think they were overreacting - those girls all looked beautiful and respectable to me. </p>
<p>Our school district recently voted to change our dress code ( to make it more strict and more specific). It says that all pants must be worn on the waist…I’m sorry, but I wouldn’t pass muster, because my pants don’t come up that high and I’m 45! I’m not sure where they think kids are going to find clothes that meet the requirements.LOL There were pages of other strange limits as well, but I won’t hijack this thread anymore. I know they are trying to clean up some of the out of control clothes , and I agree it needs to be changed, but it was ridiculous. I kind of wish they had just voted to go for a uniform - it would have made life easier.</p>
<p>ejr1, did you actually look at the dresses under scrutiny here? I watched the slide show and was surprised that these girls were turned away with the dresses in question. I thought that one or two were rather ill-fiiting, but all of them were appropriate for prom. Were they “dress code” for attending school–no. Were they appropriate prom-wear-yes. There were spagetti straps and halters and strapless but generally nice dresses. Even the one-strap dress covered ALOT of skin. </p>
<p>We have recently been prom dress shopping, and DD and I have seem some pretty, well, “skanky” dresses with all sorts of cut-outs;. and yes, the ones that look like a bikini top and a low-on-the-hip-skirt held toether with a thin piece of fabric or chain. THe girls turned away did NOT have these type dresses on.</p>
<p>There seem to be two type of prom dresses out there: the “poofy” full skirted ball gowns, and the more form fitting evening gowns. The ones in the slide show were not the full skirted dresses, but they were rather tame form fitting ones- in my humble opinion. DD found a gorgeous black strapless dress, with nice boning to keep the top up and in place. And being short wasted, it does not pull down at all, it actually sits up nicely. It is elegant on, and while it has no straps, sits up high in the front and the back. If my DD had attended this prom, whe would have been turned away.</p>
<p>Compared to the pictures below, I find the dresses in question in this case to be tame and appropriate. It’s the prom, not a church service. Don’t get me wrong … I do believe everyone should dress appropriately for such an event, but no backless dresses or spaghetti straps? Personally, I think that school is pushing it a bit too far, but I do understand that everyone must follow the rules … no matter how wrong they may sometimes be. If you want to see inappropriate, take a look at these dresses worn to prom by the pictured girls. </p>
<p>I must live a sheltered life, LOL. I have never seen prom dresses like those pictured in links in post #37. The ones posted of the girls at the La. HS were very typical prom dresses similar to those I have seen and in fact, I can’t imagine prom dresses more covered up than the ones they wore. I am unsure if such prom dresses would even exist. As for the ones just posted, I’ve never seen such types in stores here or on any girls for that matter.</p>
<p>However, the fourth picture would work in Berurah’s HS yearbook as it fits in with the pregnant girls glorification she wrote about a while back. :eek: j/k</p>
<p>I was sent those pictures last year around the time our DD was looking for prom dresses. Friends and I had been talking about the different styles of dresses and someone sent me those picutres … I’ve never seen dresses like those, either. I can’t imagine leaving the house in something like that thinking, “I look good!”</p>
<p>Not in this country, actually. The government has an obligation to follow rules themselves about their rules. This rule was so unclear that the teacher herself couldn’t be consistent; she pre-approved dresses then rejected at the door. A rule has to be fairly enforced, but some girls were let in with equally revealing dresses, if the girl herself was not as full-“featured” as the rejected girls. The teacher was even quoted as talking about the size of a girl’s chest when explaining why she couldn’t be admitted to the dance. And a rule has to be reasonable. The government can’t make you wear a blue blouse to go to the Smithsonian. It’s hard to justify that a rule is reasonable if it says that you can’t wear a prom dress to a prom. Especially when the majority of the community would consider the dress modest to acceptable.</p>