<p>From Fox News: MARRERO, La.-- Dozens of girls were turned away from a prom at Higgins High School because a teacher thought their dresses were too revealing.</p>
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<p>Not having seen these girls’ dresses, I can’t say whether they were “too revealing” or not. But since when does the school dress code apply to prom dresses? Is it even possible to find an evening dress (in stores, not on a religiously oriented web site) that would meet the restrictions?</p>
<p>In some schools that would mean coming to prom in a polo shirt and navy skirt or slacks. </p>
<p>Supposedly, it applies to our D’s school. But from what I have seen it has not been enforced. No exposed back? Good thing my D does not go that school.</p>
<p>Several girls have worn “evening dresses” to school dances at our school that were essentially bikinis with slender chains connecting the top and the bottom. The entire area, from just underneath the breasts to the bikini line was exposed. </p>
<p>Though I’ve never been one for dress codes in general, I find this type of dress to be a bit over-the-top <em>ROFL</em> at a h.s. formal. At our school, there is a LOT of pretty obscene dancing–the grinding, “simulated intercourse” type of stuff. I am ALL FOR putting a stop to that, but no one ever does. With that in mind, I’d like to see some limit to what can pass as an evening gown.</p>
<p>That said, some girls just look certain ways in dresses that others can wear differently and that would be fine on someone else. I have to shop carefully for my oldest D as things tend to look “risque” on her that might not on other girls. We selected her prom dress with great care to make sure that she looked good in it and not like a…you know what. ;)</p>
<p>I haven’t read the article yet, so I may feel differently about the dress code that this particular school imposed, but it <em>IS</em> common around here, particularly at the younger age levels, to have out-of-school parties/dances utilize the same dress code as the school. What amuses ME is that our sixth grade dress code is almost impossible to adhere to as it’s SO restrictive, and then the same district allows girls at the high school to let it ALL hang out. <em>lol</em></p>
<p>Even my daughter’s Homecoming Dance dress – which was so modest and secure that she could have reached over to tie her shoe without anything showing – would have violated that dress code. It had (<em>gasp</em>) spaghetti straps, and therefore showed some actual chest and back.</p>
<p>In my opinion, what kids should be learning about clothing choices is the importance of dressing appropriately for the occasion. There’s one set of choices that’s appropriate for school, another for job interviews, another for the beach, etc. For a dance, wearing revealing clothing is *appropriate.<a href=“So%20much%20so%20that%20I%20actually%20urged%20my%20daughter%20to%20buy%20a%20sexier%20dress%20–%20an%20act%20for%20which%20I%20would%20surely%20be%20relegated%20to%20hell%20by%20the%20Jefferson%20Parish%20school%20board.”>/i</a></p>
<p>There’s a time and a place for everything. Jefferson Parish needs to learn that.</p>
<p>Now “dirty dancing” is another story, D’s school will take school ids, call the parents to come get the kids, and they face possible suspension. The date’s school is also called. I have no problem with this.</p>
<p>I didn’t mean to imply that I thought belly-dancing outfits would be appropriate. It just seemed the girls were taken by surprise when the school’s daytime dress code was invoked at a dance.</p>
<p>Agreed, there is a time and a place for everything.</p>
<p>sounds like someone is on a power trip
What motivation would this teacher have to deny dozens of girls the opportunity to attend their senior prom- especially after she had previously approved of the dress? Melerine said she is larger-busted than many of the girls who passed inspection at the door. She said it is harder for her to get the right fit in a prom dress and that Gardner gave her blessing to a picture of the dress long before the dance.</p>
<p>I can relate to Melerine.
I didn’t attend my prom, but I was a 32 DD and formal dresses are not made with cup sizes, hell, I couldn’t even find a * bra* to fit me.</p>
<p>If they wanted the girls to wear stiff dresses that didn’t cling to the body and covered up everything below the collarbone- they should perhaps manufacture their own line?
Or sell shrouds
One or the other ;)</p>
<p>Okay…read the article now and I think that that particular dress code is ludicrious for a prom. Evening wear at a dance should NOT have to comply with the same dress code as daywear in class at school. No way.</p>
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This is an issue with my D as well, and it would not be fair to penalize a girl for that, although I do encourage (and frankly, INSIST) that my D wear things that flatter her and don’t appear “skanky.” I really don’t have to tell her…she hates that look anyway. :)</p>
<p>Marian–I’m trying to think of what a prom “uniform” would look like, and failing, but still it’s amusing to try.</p>
<p>Remember the old commercial before the fall of the Soviet Union, showing Communist “fashions”? They were all the same baggy thing, but the MC gamely announced: “Dayvear! Evening vear! Svimvear!”</p>
<p>“chest” what does that mean exactly…2 inches from the neck? even the “modest” dresses I have seen on some sites have some chest showing, or are they trying to say cleavage or boobies…“chest” - and “back” - hat they want the dresses up to the neck…</p>
<p>Were any girls actually allowed to stay? I can’t imagine anybody actually having a prom dress that would fit our school’s dress code:</p>
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<p>I remember a few years ago that we used to get mailings about prom wear, and the dresses looked like lingerie. I was happy this year to see that, in my opinion, prom dresses have gotten more modest - at least around here. However, my D thinks it’s quite funny that my prom dress had long sleeves.</p>
<p>However, my D thinks it’s quite funny that my prom dress had long sleeves.</p>
<p>my wedding dress had a high neck and long sleeves ( victorian style)
however- I am more athletic now, than when I got married- and I almost like my arms
I think that is probably true for many girls- they play lots of sports & have biceps & lats! They look a lot better in camisole type dresses I think, than I and my peers would have in the 70s</p>
<p>My D hasn’t gone to prom yet- when she attended a winter formal this year, she wore a dress that looked like a sundress to me ( short), but at least she can wear it again ( to the beach!)</p>
<p>Crazy - My D also is larger busted than most and is self concious enough without a teacher like this - she would probably dress in a sack forever if this happened to her. Having said that she does not like to wear revealing clothes and her body language is pretty hysterical when she tries on something that turns out to be revealing and she comes out hunched over. But her prom dress is strapless and shows shoulders, some back and upper chest. I don’t recall seeing any prom dress that would satisfy the strict requirements of school dress code. But I had to laugh at one quote in the article:</p>
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<p>How cute - “features” - never heard them called that before</p>
<p>after looking at the pictures of the dresses- my impression is that while not all the dresses are necessarily * flattering* they ALL, were appropriate IMO & some were downright modest- particulary compared to what they wear while competing in track or volleyball!</p>
<p>Considering that most dresses available are pretty skanky looking, I thought that the girls had all made an attempt to dress modestly while still looking like they were “dressed up”</p>
<p>I mean the two white strapless dresses? those were strapless, but very modest, did the teacher expect a riot if they showed a clavicle?</p>
<p>Oh my gosh - I agree with the above posters - if they were turned away for wearing those dresses that is ridiculous. They were mostly pretty modest by prom dress standards and, as binx said, lovely and quite appropriate. Not sure my Ds prom dress would pass there - it is strapless but not revealing (kind of like the white dresses emeraldkitty commented on) and she does not wear revealing clothes (this is a girl whose favorite pants are a pair of size 15 cargo pants - she is a size 8/10). She would be so crushed if this happened to her. And the bigger girls pictures amongst them - it is hard to find prom dresses in bigger sizes. I feel so bad for those girls. Prom is such a big thing for these teens. Makes you wonder what was going on with the teacher.</p>
<p>That’s sad for them - I didn’t see any dresses that would have caused me concern in that link. That kind of ego trip ticks me off - especially if the school had pre-approved a girls dress!</p>
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